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Welcome to my ted talk

!warning! This is kinda long so if you dont wanna read you obviously dont have to. But at least skip to the end and read the last part. It means a lot for me to get this out to anyone willing to read. (1153 words, just a heads up)

to put it simply, something happened today that I wanna talk about

(This is a short little story so this would be the part to skip. There will be an indication when its done)

My school had this little project going on to stop use of certain objects, and we had the choice to sign our names. We then received an item representing our "oath". So, i went along with two other friends to do this, and after they gave us the item, we proceeded to walk back to our tables (we were having lunch). One of my friends that i was walking with, lets say friend A, asked one of her friends from a lunch table if he had gotten the item.

Now, before i continue, let me clarify.

Im apart of two different friend groups. One has like six people, including myself, and the other three, including myself. In the group of six, there is a person that was once best friends with one of the people in the group of three. Something happened, and they broke it off, but they didnt have any real closure, so basically they just stopped talking and just pretty much avoid each other.

Okay, so the friend mentioned before "friend A" had nothing to do with them or their friendship, friend B, the other friend in the group of three, told our group about her past best friend and how she hurt her.

So friend A basically hates this girls guts now. And ONLY because friend B doesnt like her. This girl did nothing to friend A. Period. And yes, i know how people are like "if you hurt my best friend blah blah blah," but trust me when I say friend A treats this girl like satan incarnate.

Back to the story

A little recap-

i was walking back to a lunch table with friend A and B, passing by the table with the girl they didnt like. Friend A asked a friend if he'd gone up to sign his name, and the girl said "i already got one"

Friend A claims she said a specific name, but I swear all i heard was "did yall get your straw?"
Like she wasn't talking to anyone in particular, but instead the entire table of people

As we're walking back to the table, friend A says "i wasnt fucking talking to you"

And im just confused like...you werent talking to anyone. She probably just thought you were asking all of them. (As states before, friend A later said she called a specific name)

Now, this girl knows friend B does not like her. She doesn't know friend A doesn't, so obviously she wouldn't be as cautious.

We're sitting, and Friend A just goes off on this girl like she killed her mother or something

Things like "why tf would she even talk to me"
Basically treating her like dirt behind her back.

I told her that thats no way to handle someone. The girl she was pretty much cussing out for a misunderstanding is very sensitive (i think). If friend A were to go up to her and say those things to her face, shed probably just let herself get harassed.

Friend B, who originally had the problem with this girl, also told friend A that she needed to calm down and let it go. Friend A just kind of shut down after that, like we'd done her wrong or something. We just told her it wasn't that serious and she needed to calm down.

I knew she was mad with me because i told her she was wrong for that and she just doesn't take it well when people try to correct her. (By the end of the day, friend A had acted as if it hadn't happened. We're still cool)

!end of story!

Im sorry if the story was confusing

The point of me writing all this is to say that you should never treat people like they are less of a human. My friend literally verbally harassed the girl behind her back, talking as if she had no right to even be alive.

Please, please do not do that to anyone. No matter how much you dislike them, no matter how bad they make you feel, being equally as rude isn't helping. You're not resolving the situation whatsoever. A lot of the time, that person who is bullying you or similar has problems at home, or with themselves, and they feel that picking on and hurting someone else is the key to happiness. You don't know whats going on with them

My friend (friend A) gives this girl dirty looks whenever she walks by, saying she'll "whoop her ass" or something similar if she even comes near her, all because of something this girl already expressed she felt bad for, that she was sorry for it and wished she and friend B were still best friends.

Friend A treats her like absolute shit. And she doesn't even know her. Not in the slightest. She heard one bad thing and has taken this and run with it, using it as her excuse to be excessively mean and hateful. I just want to say, thats not how you deal with people. You never know how close they are to breaking. Im not saying act like they're your best friend, but don't be mean like that. Its not helping anything. Especially when, like in this situation, you never had any problems personally with the person you "hate". The only reason friend A acted that way was because friend B said she no longer liked this girl, which is not enough reason to treat someone like they're the devil.

You should never send over internet or personally voice death threats, and with the way friend A acted, it was like she wanted the girl to go kill herself. It was disgusting and I honestly hated seeing her be that way.

No matter who you are, what you've done, you don't deserve to be treated like you're garbage (ik some people will disagree but im ok with that) and I just want to say don't do that to anyone else, because if you put yourself in their shoes, you wouldn't want that happening to you.

I know most people didn't get this far but i had to get this off my mind. Its been bugging me. And if you did make it here, thank you for reading and please at least think about what I said. Its not a joke out here. People are steady hurting themselves, committing suicide and the like. Please do not be overly rude 🙇‍♀️

Bye little eggs 🤧