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Personality Types Of Abusers.

A/N: Today I will teach you about the personality types of abusers, and how to identify them.

Personality Types Of Abusers.

-The Narcassict-

Type Of Abuser: Emotional. Verbal. Finanial. 

Definition: Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity, or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes, that deprive from arrogant pride. The term originated from the Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own imaged reflected in a pool of water.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism

How They Work: In a way Narcassict's are silent abusers that use their words instead of their fists. They don't leave physical proof of their abuse, but emotional proof that can be well hidden by the fear they cause. Often a Narcassict will try to preserve a good image while hurting the victim at the same time. They use their words in the form of derogatory insults, insults about your appearance, threats, and occasionally denying you something you need. Narcassicts can be very sneaky with their abuse, and are at times well admired by a lot of people making it difficult to out them. Once they had harmed the victim they try to make it look like their the victim, and that they did absolutely nothing wrong. They are the masters of manipulation. In some cases a Narcassict can be one of the most dangerous abusers. 

Red Flags: Projected feelings of insecurity (he/she will project their insecurity onto you to seem brighter by comparison.), Emotion-Phobia (Narcassicts often lack emotions, or the proper emotion to various situations), A fragmented family story (Most Narcassicts tend to come from abusive or neglectful families themselves so often they will make up lies about their family), Idol worship (Narcassicts like to put perfect people on pedestals in hopes that perfection will rub off on them), and last but not least a high need for control. 

Famous Narcassists: Adolph Hitler, Elvis Presely, Simon Cowell, Madonna, Paris Hilton, Donald Trump, etc. 

-The Pyschopath-

Type Of Abuser: Sexual, Physical, Emotional, Verbal, Economic, and Mental.

Definition: A person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior.

How They Work: Psychopaths are extremely skilled not just at pretending to be decent men, but also at dosing. As early as the luring phase of the relationship, when they appear to be loving and normal partners, they make deviant requests, under the guise of romantic love. For instance, they isolate their new partners from those who care about them–family and friends–by claiming that they’re so in love with them that they wish to spend as much time as possible together. If the psychopath’s partner wishes to go out with friends, he spreads gossip about those individuals, claiming that they were critical of her or of their relationship. Or the psychopath may state that he’s so much in love with his partner that he can’t bear to spend time apart from her. Couched in these positive terms, many women allow their other, healthy, social relationships with family members and friends to slowly but surely deteriorate. The less support they have from others, the more such women invest themselves wholeheartedly in the psychopathic bond. Once he senses his power over her, the psychopath becomes more openly possessive and controlling. Psychopaths have an intuitive relationship barometer that tells them when they have achieved dominance over others and can demand more (and more and more…) from them. Another way in which psychopaths condition their partners to accept a toxic relationship is by gradually pushing the envelope of deviant requests. Since psychopaths are easily bored and need constant thrills, they may initially ask their targets to make out in public, under the pretense that they’re so attracted to them that they can’t keep his hands off of them. In reality, however, psychopaths are not as attracted to their partners, even at the beginning of the relationship, as to the thrill of crossing the boundaries of public decency and demeaning their partners. Recall from my previous post that psychopaths are extreme narcissists who derive most pleasure from the dominance and victimization of others. As soon as the victim complies with one perverse request, it becomes normative. After a short while, the psychopath will demand more indecent behavior from her, once again pretending that it stems from their great and special passion. Pretty soon, the victim finds herself complicit with his abnormal behavior, sometimes even addicted to it. Not surprisingly, this technique is often used by pimps to create loyalty and submission in the women and girls they ensnare into prostitution. What begins under the guise of romantic love and passion–something that most women yearn for–ends up being what it always was in reality and in the psychopath’s evil design: a form of sexual slavery. Even partners who refuse to engage in the psychopath’s transgressive behavior–be it his scams, lies or sexual perversion–are inevitably poisoned by the toxic relationship if they continue to stay with him. The most common way in which a psychopath poisons his partner is to condition her to accept his abusive behavior as normal. This doesn’t have to be under the form of physical violence, although it can be.