Dysphoria

Dealing With Transphobia

This part always sucks...

I hate to tell you it but, you gotta grow some tough skin because something someone doesn't understand will without a doubt say something really transphobic.

Story:

My sister and I were shopping today and she asked me "why can't you just be a lesbian?". I really really tried to be a lesbian when I first found out. I tried so hard but the dysphoria was crippling and I tried to explain to her that I would rather die than live as a girl. I really would I cannot stand any aspect of me that makes me a girl. I told her to take every single bit of what makes her female down to the way she walks and speaks to people and imagine it makes you want to kill yourself. She told me that I would always be a girl (not like you'll always be a girl in my eyes more like chromosomes don't change) and I had to take that at face value. She didn't understand there are ways to alleviate the pain of dysphoria so I had to understand that and be responsible and civil with her. If someone doesn't know about a topic, inform don't start yelling and getting upset. There will also be people that will never agree, like my parents, but that doesn't mean you should yell or be mad. Just accept that and you live your life they can live theirs. Because, unless they are a major lawmaker or they have a say in medical things, the world around them will progress and move forward it's their choice to be accepting or not. And it's up to you to take the high road and be responsible and not upset. 

Why it's important to keep a level head:

We've all seen videos where people scream and yell and nothing gets solved no one walks away with information and everyone is left upset. It also looks really bad for the community which is already flawed due to this kind of irrational behavior. 

Why sharing information is important:

When you share information there is a higher chance that people will come around. It may not be immediate. Give them time. If it took you time to come to terms with your sexuality or gender identity it'll take them time to learn how to accept it. Just be patient and if they don't come around do what's best for you.

Most important lesson:

Safety first. Do not talk to someone who will physically harm you. I'm sorry but transphobic words will always be said it's inevitable and I'm sorry but it is. 

Just stay safe. Don't be stupid. Be smart and inform. Don't give us a worse name than we already have. That's why people don't accept us.

Love, fuckimaguy