Tableegh (Noble Da'wah) - A Guide to Happiness and Peace

4. Marriage

Marriage

I told my mother that I would marry a pious girl from a family with an Islamic background.  They should not be rich also and no demands from us.  My mother said, “We have spent so much in getting your four sisters married, so I will be demanding jewels and money”.  I refused and remained steadfast.  Reluctantly she agreed.  I must thank my mother who was not adamant otherwise, I have seen some of the grooms taking shelter under their parents and putting the blame on them on these evils.

Alhamdulillah! I was to marry the daughter of an eminent scholar and a teacher from our city who had eight sons and three daughters.

Clarification

The first question posed by my wife during my first night was, “Do you go on Tableegh Jamath?”

I said “yes”

“Can you please prove through Quran and Hadees of such Dawah work? If you can’t, I will not permit you to go”.

I kept quiet, immediately prayed two rakats of Salatul Hajath and submitted my application to Allah(SWT) “Ya Allah, I am ignorant and I do not have the talent or knowledge to convince my wife, only You should show us guidance”.

I narrated this to our elders, Professor Majeed Basha Sb., and Professor Munawar Basha Saheb (May Allah give them the jaza) who opined not to compel her but to go ahead with only Talim.

For next 3 months, I did not go on any jamath, even for one day but slowly started reading the Fazail- e- Amal Book by Shaikh Zackariah Alaihi Rahma every night before going to bed with my wife listening reluctantly.

After 3 months, after performing two Rakats of Salatul Hajath prayer, I told my wife that there was a Masturath (Ladies) Jamath getting ready for 3 days and asked her whether we could also join? 

I told her, “If you are not satisfied even for a minute, just let me know, I will take you back home”.  She agreed.

We were five men with our spouses and were directed to Chinglepet near our city.  The womenfolk stayed in a house and we stayed in the Masjid.  All the ladies called my wife “Dulhan” (Bride) because she was the youngest among them.

By the Grace of Allah (SWT) two days went on smoothly.  3rd day, myself and another brother were asked to go with our spouses to a nearby village, arrange for a programme of masturath, deliver the speech and to come back.

On reaching the village, we left our ladies in a hut and went around the houses informing that there will be a Bayan (speech) for their ladies.  All the ladies came there and assembled in the house. They did not cover themselves as per the Islamic rules.  One of us spoke regarding the benefits of following Deen especially by the women, which will have a strong impact on the family. It will pave way for a good society.  After that we told them to pray Asr and we left for the nearby Masjid.

My wife and the other lady interacted with the women after the bayan.  Their knowledge towards deen was very little.  My wife asked the lady of the hut “Which side is Qibla?”

She replied, “what is Qibla?”  My wife asked, then how do you pray?  She said “We do not pray at all, only some of the male folk go the Masjid”.

This made a terrific impact on my wife.  While returning, she said, “Yes, this Dawah work is very much essential”.

From then onwards, she was very cooperative in sending me for 3 days jamath and you will not believe, she voluntarily gave one of her jewel for sending me on 40 days jamath when I had financial crunch.