A system story

Guide #1

Hello so I saw this thing about plural etiquette and I thought I'd fill it out (this is mainly for people who know us irl) p.s our answers will be in bold

What do you go by collectively? (a system name, a shared username, group pronouns... etc)
We go by the name The Quartz System and we use she/her pronouns (due to the host being female) and occasionally they/them pronouns

How should people refer to you? (should people address individual members whenever possible, or would you rather be referred to collectively, etc)
We like when people address the individual members but there is a lot of us so we're fine with either

What terms do you prefer for referring to yourselves as individuals (headmate/alter/system member/...), or as a group (system/collective/household/...)? Is there any other terminology for yourselves or aspects of your experience that you use and want people to know, or that you dislike and want people to avoid when talking about you?
We use part,character and head mate so either one is fine. Don't mention... drugs, (specifically date-rape drugs) with certain members don't mention sex and NEVER under any circumstances mention the show 13 reasons why.

Who in your system are people most likely to interact with? (names, pronouns, short Twitter-esque bios, etc)

Katie: host (14) straight female. She/her pronouns. Likes: the theatre, art, journaling. Dislikes: stupid people, lies and ignorance (no triggers) (age slides)

Tate: (15) straight male. He/him pronouns. Likes: rugby, music, cooking, sleeping and sunny weather.
Dislikes: the cold, disrespectful people, any sort of discrimination. (No triggers) (age slides)

Alpha: (21) straight female. She/her pronouns.
Likes: chocolate, cycling, riding her motorbike and sleeping
Dislikes: being too warm, tight clothes and water (13 reasons why is a trigger) (age slid once and said that she'd never do that again)

Zachary: (23) pansexual male. He/him pronouns.
Likes: sleeping, cooking, likes being in front
Dislikes: stupidity, discrimination and arrogance (no known triggers) (doesn't age slide)

Will people be interacting with any child members? How should they treat them? Is there anything they should know when interacting with them?
We do have a few littles so chances are you will meet one. Just make sure they're aren't worried and are safe. It would be amazing if you could try to get someone else to switch out. Also don't push conversation.

Are there any system members who are nonverbal or otherwise have difficulty communicating? What should others expect when speaking with them? (having other system members translate, can speak normally over text but will need accommodation over voice, etc)
Yes, Lucky is selective mute but she doesn't switch out a lot. And if she is out she doesn't come out for longer than 10mins. But she uses sign language and written communication.

What should people do if they don't know who's at front?
Ask! But be polite!!!

Is it okay for people to ask if they can talk to someone who isn't at front at the moment?
Yeah we don't know if we'll be able to get them but you can defiantly ask. Again be polite about it!

If someone talks to one of you, will other system members be aware of the conversation? Will they be actively watching, or just able to remember it later?
Yeah we'll be able to remember what happened but we don't listen in.

Adding onto the above – if multiple system members will be aware of a conversation, will they want to chime in? If someone wants to speak to a system member one-on-one, what expectations can they have and how should they communicate this? (for example, it may not be possible to block everyone out but they can try to pay attention to something else and not interrupt)
If someone wants to speak to a headmate one on one then we can take precautions to ensure that no on else is listening in.

How out are you? What should people do when talking to people who don't know you're plural? (do you have a "singletsona" name and pronouns they should use; can they talk about knowing someone who's plural in nonspecific terms, without naming you; etc)
We're only out to a few people so if we're not around other people who know then just always call us Katie and use she/her pronouns. And of course you can say that you know someone who's plural but just please don't name us.

Do you have any internal communication difficulties, memory issues, switch triggers, etc that others should be mindful of?
We have positive triggers such as songs and toys and if someone is needed for something then they will take over🧸

Your stance on being asked questions? (about personal experience, preferences, plurality in general, etc)
Completely fine with any questions :)

Is there anything else others should know?
We're all people so please treat us with respect. We're all different but none of us are violent or scary individuals. Please be polite.

~The Quartz System