Show, Don't Tell - Stages of Attraction: The Psychology of Writing

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Male Viewpoint:

Interest

body going still momentarily

eyebrows that rise quickly

eye contact that sticks and then takes the whole body in

shifting to display his chest and shoulders

smiling and moving closer to engage

placing hands near his pelvis

Flirting

paying a sincere compliment

lingering eye contact

offering jokes and light banter

smiling and wetting his lips

"accidental" touches (leg bumps, hand brush) and touch excuses

leaning closer to say something directly in her ear

mirroring body language

Desires

a gaze that explores and suggests

active touches (stroking her arm, cupping her chin) and direct eye contact

erasing distance (taking her hands, pulling her close)

lips that part slightly

increased swallowing

touching her neck, throat, or wrists lightly

leaning in to whisper and letting his cheek or lips brush her skin

Lust

pulling her in to claim her

kisses that test then deepen and grow more urgent

cupping her neck

hands carving through her hair

physical arousal (stiffening, tensing)

hands and lips that explore curves (touch, squeeze)

vocalizing (heavy breathing, whispering desires)

fumbling with clothing


Female Viewpoint:

Interest

body posture stiffening

a visible intake of breath

glancing down only to look back

a smile that spreads once caught looking

angling her body toward him

thrusting the shoulders back slightly

pushing her hair back from her face (tucking it behind her ear)

giving a small wave or head tilt in invitation

Flirting

asking about his interests and opinions

smiling and laughing at his jokes

touching his knee or arm lightly

leaning in or stepping closer (entering his personal space)

fiddling with a necklace to draw his gaze to her neck

playing with her hair while listening

swiveling toward him while sitting so knees touch

Desires

wetting her lips

lingering or suggestive touches (trailing her fingers along his collar)

gaze drifting between his eyes and lips

moving close enough to clearly invite his touch

knees that loosen and part slightly

reaching out to touch his shoulders

trembling and her breath hitching

hooking a finger under his belt or touching his shirt

Lust

yielding to his embrace (sliding her arms around him)

lifting her lips to be kissed

arching and tilting her head back

touching his jawline

running fingers through his hair

vocalizing (breathing becoming rushed, emitting small moans or gasps)

running her hands over his chest

squeezing his forearms

clutching at his shoulders and hips

pulling at his clothing to touch his skin

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