my thoughts

"That's so gay"

"That's so gay",
is what you say,
but silently,
you've pushed one
of your friends away.

"oh no honey,
boys don't play
with barbie dolls".
By enforcing gender roles,
you are killing
your kids,
please tell them
that you'll love them no matter what conditions apply.

Don't push your loved ones away
with things you do or say,
because words hurt;
But they hurt most
from the mouths of
the people that told you,
they'd always love you.

Saying "That's so gay",
Or making them behave
in a gendered way,
is telling them
that it's not okay
to be something
they can't choose.
(And even if they could,
why would it matter?)
And it will hurt them,
forever,
and everytime you're together,
they'll be wondering:
"Am I wrong?"
"Do I really belong?"

Everytime you say something like,
"That's so gay",
you burn someone's trust away.
And you can't build anything back
from ash.