LIFE AS YOU SEE IT

5. A CITY I CROSSED IN THE PATH OF LIFE

All of us have an inexhaustible well of unique experiences in our personal lives. Every experience teaches us a lesson which helps us to grow differently in life.

I had such an experience recently in my life which has completely changed me and my thoughts. I am not that person anymore I was one year ago, this experience has given me the best lesson of my life and has taught me so many things.

So it was something like this, I came into a relationship just after starting a new journey towards my career and at that time I was the person who used to believe in the fairytale version of love  and my belief was so strong, I was someone who used to think that when I will find my partner I make my relationship so perfect and it will be the best moment when I will fall in love. I was not in any hurry but those situations started back to back and somewhere I was the one to interact with that "guy" mostly because of those situations and by that time I feel for him and he got the message that I do like him from somewhere and then we came into  a 'relationship'. Now when all of this started situations were  already at their worse like there were so many problems going on between "him" and my friend and she used to tell me that you are doing a mistake he is not a good person but at that time I used to think that she might be misunderstanding him and then after a month or two a lot of people around me always used to warn me  that you didn't know him, you were so quick, you should have thought about it smartly; but I was like I know him and I used to think that it's my relationship it has nothing to do with other people's opinion and when you come into a relationship there are a lot of people who say shit about your relationship and following this I kept ignoring things all the time, I had fights and misunderstandings with my friends because of "him" I tried my best to handle my friendship and relationship differently and I  kept both the things separate.

After 4-5 months those people as well as my friends were proven right. Whatever they said was right. I then started observing things from close and then I realised yes those people were right, my friends were right and it was me who chose a wrong path. But by that time I was completely fallen for "him",  it became difficult for me to believe that one day it will end, it became difficult for me to take up a stand,  I was completely broken and trust me those 10 months were the worst  time of my life and the most depressing period of my life. I lost myself in search for someone. I thought by the passage of time one day things will get better but I was wrong by the time things went worse and then I just left the  things as they were, I didn't wanted to waste my efforts so I stopped and finally one day my feelings  died.

Finally one fine day I  took a decision for myself. I stood up for myself. I realised my importance. I stood up for my self respect. Yes I apologize to myself for what I did to me. The only thing which exists in my life because of that relationship is the lesson I learnt and the real things I got to know.

And that person does not even exists in my life anymore, he's nowhere but the lesson. The experience was such a bad one that I can't even give him a place of a enemy in my life and it made me realised that I deserve more, much more. I just don't want him anywhere. I'm completely out of it, it's over and I am over that "whatever".

The things I realised and I learnt are :
We should sometimes believe in our friends because your real friends will never have bad intentions for you. My friend and my sister stood for me even when I was silent, in fact for once they believed and supported me.
Always trust your intuitions, don't give anyone so many chances that they start taking you for granted because you matter.
Take time I repeat take time no matter how much time you need but take time to know someone before starting a new journey because you should know that the other person is sure about you because if he/she is not sure you should just step back.
Never lose your importance in front of the other person because there you start losing your place and respect in his/her life.
In your life "you" should always come "first" no matter how strong a bond is make "yourself" your first priority.
Never compromise on self respect, your self respect should be stronger than your feelings.
You have the right to speak for something you don't like, nobody I  repeat nobody has a right to shut you up because your opinion and  your decisions matter.

Most important thing that I have realised is no matter how much good a women you are, you will never be enough to a man who isn't "READY TO BE LOYAL".

I AM REALLY REALLY PROUD OF MYSELF FOR THE DECISION I TOOK OF WALKING AWAY FROM SUCH A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. AT THE PRESENT LIFE WHICH I AM LIVING I AM THE HAPPIEST PERSON ON THIS PLANET AND TRUST ME I AM HAVING THE BEST MOMENT OF MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.

CHEERS TO ME AND MY FREEDOM.

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HELLO READERS..!!
SHARING A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH YOU PEOPLE. A EXPERIENCE WHICH HAS GIVEN ME A LIFETIME LESSON. DON'T STAY QUITE, SAY THINGS AND ALWAYS SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF.
graciearya18 THANKS TO HER. TODAY AS A PERSON WHOEVER  I'M IT'S JUST BECAUSE OF HER. SHE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE, TAUGHT ME HOW TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF.
THANK YOU ALL PEOPLE FOR READING THIS. I HOPE IT WILL SOMEWHERE HELP YOU TO COME OUT OF TOXIC PEOPLE IN LIFE. DON'T BE A SILENT READER, FEEL FREE AND LEAVE YOUR THOUGHTS IN THE  COMMENT SECTION.