Sometimes all that is needed can be simple words as "you're not alone." The reason I say that is because we often tend to think that we are alone and that no one really understands what we are feeling and what we are going through in our lives but, they may have gone or are going through the same thing. But since we don't know that we often tend to keep everything to ourselves and that can lead us to thinking that we are alone, and no one understands us. So sometimes the only words that we want, need to hear are "you're not alone" as reassurance that we are not the only ones going through tough times. Whether we lose someone important in our lives or get taken for granted by our own 'family' we still have others who we can rely on we aren't alone. But, when I say taken for granted by our 'family' what I mean is that they don't value what we do for them daily, they only say that we do nothing while they do everything, they see us as nothing else but as someone who is useless and can't do anything right, that no matter whatever we do it always comes out wrong. They don't appreciate anything that we do, no matter how hard we try, they're perspective of us won't change. They can't seem to appreciate anything that we do, and they always have something negative to say to you or about you. It comes to a point where all we get from them are negative things and getting a compliment or an 'I'm proud of you' are rare. But whenever you do receive those words it's unbelievable for you, since you know that all you have gotten are all negative things said to and about you. But the only one who tells you the words 'I'm proud of you' is your sibling, not you parent(s). One of the reasons that you can't seem to be able to believe those words is due to the reason that you don't feel confident enough is because it's not your siblings who take you for granted daily, but your parent(s) and all that your parent(s) see are the mistakes you do not the opposite. That instead of telling you what you could improve for next time the only thing that you receive are negative e words and phrases such as "you are useless" "you can't even do anything right."
Or maybe you aren't the child, and you are the parent. They think that all you do is control them, that they don't get to have any freedom. If you have both a daughter and a son, and you tend to mostly rely on your daughter to cook, wash the dishes, clean the house, or to sum it up most to all the chores in the house, when your son does little to nothing to help then don't let that continue. Let her have some time for herself as well. Let her have her own thoughts and don't let make her stay inside all the time either. Let her be able to go outside at least in the backyard to have some fresh air for a bit and play around for a bit. make sure that they also receive some love and attention from you, spend time with you to have a bond with each other, to be able to trust each other. They always say that communication is key, and I agree with that, but I also think that for one to not fear whatever it might be that they want to tell you, you both must be able to trust each other and to just have enough confidence to be able to tell the other. I understand that sometimes it might take a lot of time and effort to be able to trust the other. Sometimes it can also be our own siblings who tell you that you can't do anything your own without making a single mistake and you know that they are the ones who you think that you can trust to a certain extent, yet they only end up betraying you and that slowly makes you develop trust issues. You might even start to not be able to handle, deal with all the pressure that they put on you. Yet your parent(s) might not know what is going on. For one because you act like you're alright, that you're a certain way. Then your siblings just lie to make it seem as if they did part of the work. But when they know that there's something missing or something went wrong them, they say that it was you who was in charge of that. Then again there are days where it's better than others, yet it still might not be the best, but you know that at least it's better.
I know that being a parent may be difficult, since I have to take care of my siblings often. But I also know that hearing from your parent that you're not good enough, and such things can and will hurt but it's better to try and tell each other or at least someone you trust how you feel. I have learned from experience that it's not good to keep your feelings bottled up.
It doesn't matter whom they may be to you, but try and tell someone. Don't keep the feelings hidden for too long, you never know you'll break down. Wherever it might be, you'll never know.
Hope you all have a wonderful day or night. If it's day for you make sure you eat well and, if it is night for you make sure to get a good night sleep 😴.
