Sa Likod ng Hinaharap

KNOW YOUR WORTH

"Ako kasi basta mahal niya ako at di siya mag cheat sa akin, ok na ako doon."

"Di na siya nagrereply sa mga chat ko. Baka ako yung may mali. Kaya pinuntahan ko sya sa workplace nya para i-surprise. Pinagluto ko siya ng favorite dish niya. Lumabas naman siya pero kinuha lang yung dala kong food para sa kanya at umalis na."

"May nililigawan na daw siyang bago. Tingin ko naman maaayos pa namin yung relationship namin. Kaya sinubukan kong i-chat pa siya. Iyak ako ng iyak. After ilang weeks nalaman ko na lang sila na ng nililigawan niya."

Lines at statement from my friend. Nang minsang may manligaw sa kanya, naging sila at nagka-problema lang, nanligaw na ng iba, at binitawan agad siya.

Tanong ng kaibigan ko sakin, "Ganun na ba ako kabilis sukuan?"

Sabi pa niya "Kung kailan mahal ko na siya, kung kailan hulog na hulog na ako sa kanya, yun naman yung time na sumuko siya."

Dagdag pa niya "Alam niya na sobrang trauma ko sa past relationship ko dahil nga sa nag cheat sa akin yung ex ko, tapos ganito pa gagawin niya? Akala ko naiintindihan niya ako. Akala ko totoo nararamdaman niya sa akin, akala ko siya na."

How far would you go for someone you love?

Nanaisin mo ba na mag sacrifice sa isang tao while you completely loose yourself in the process?

Are you really in love when you let your guard down just to please or care too much for that "someone" who's not really into you?

Hahabulin mo pa ba kung malinaw na malinaw na sa mga actions niya na di ka na niya kailangan?

Of course some of us will say NO.

But those people who's genuinely in love but has the wrong idea or ways of being in love or being in a relationship would say YES.

Those people who would do anything in the name of love would probably say YES.

They are blinded by the idea of "Mahal ko eh. Hindi ko kaya kapag nawala siya. Iba siya. Baka magbago naman siya."

My dear, you got it wrong. Love should be your peace. Love should not drain you. Love should mold you to be the best version of yourself. Ang love hindi pinipilit. Love will stay.

There are no perfect relationships but we can choose someone who will stay with us when things get rough. Because admit it, when we love, we always get hurt but we can choose someone who's worth the pain.

You deserve what you tolerate ika nga. Kaya ka nasasaktan kasi hinahayaan mong saktan ka. You let them treat you negatively. Have the courage to walk away from anything that does not serve you well. Give yourself a favor, love yourself first before anything else. Never settle for something less. Never lower your standards when it comes to love dahil may isang tao na kayang tanggapin at mahalin kung ano ka at kung sino ka without any pretensions. 

Tandaan niyo: 

If they want to, they will. 

The way they treat you is the reflection of their feelings towards you. 

Some of us will think, "May iba kaya siya?" "Niloloko niya kaya ako?" Kapag nagsimula ka nang magtanong ng ganitong mga bagay, well baka niloloko ka talaga. Never nagkakamali ang instinct natin. You will never question his/ her love if your partner is treating you the way you deserve. You will never doubt his/ her feelings towards you kapag ka pinaparamdam niya sayo na ikaw lang talaga. So when you start questioning na, alam mo na ha? Once confirmed, LEAVE. 

SA LIKOD NG HINAHARAP

Hindi mo kailangan mag pretend na ok ka. Umiyak ka. Hayaan mong masaktan ka. Sooner or later,  you will realize why things don't turned out the way you wanted it.