Everyday Melody

May 1st, 2015

I'm really bad at comforting people. First of all, I'm just naturally awkward around people, so I can't just give them a big hug and tell them comforting things. I'm also bad with my words, so I don't know how to make people feel better by telling them things.
Mostly the reason I don't know how to comfort is because I have no idea what they are going through. I feel really bad for them, but I don't know how to relate and that's why I can't relieve them of their sadness.
I also am afraid of saying things that will just make them feel worse. Even just saying the usual things won't help at all, because they're not from the heart and they will realize that. Saying lukewarm things is almost just as bad as saying the wrong thing, because either way it won't make them feel better.
So I came to a resolution: just be honest and genuine. The other day, y friend was crying a bit because she was having some relationship issues (nothing big, I assure you, I go to a Christian school so everyone is kind to each other, she just felt lonely). Everyone at our table was trying to comfort her, but I couldn't find the right words to say. So I just did the only thing I felt I could do; I stood up and brought her some napkins.
After that, another boy at our table tried to give her a tissue but she laughed and said she didn't want his germy napkins. (don't worry, it was a joke; we're all friends.) She felt a bit better after that, and the smile she gave was really pretty.
Even as simple as getting napkins for someone, if you comfort people out of your own heart, your feelings will always be conveyed.