My friend also my listener to all my miseries, suddenly apologising to me. She said she feel like she was invalidating my feelings and emotion before this.
Every time I opened up to her, she always trying to look for an advice to give to me. I don't think it was a bad thing. I means I could use those advices in future because I could not depending on her all the time. But she thought only listening would have be enough.
For me, when she's trying find a suitable advices for my problems is an effort that shows that she cares.
I should have apologised to her actually for burdening her with my silly problems that I could handle on my own. I think I developed a Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD). I could not stand up on my own without any help from others.
Also every time I opened up to her, I never asked her how was her day? Does she have a bad day? or Does she also need listener? I feel like I am selfish, I only think about myself, not bother to ask people around me.
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