Read Me When You Need Me

Read Me When You're Fighting The Urge To Text Someone You Shouldn't

In those moments when your phone feels like a weight in your hand, when every fiber of your being is drawn to the idea of reaching out to someone you know you shouldn't, let these words be a gentle anchor. The urge to reconnect, to seek closure or comfort from someone who is no longer a part of your journey, is deeply human. Yet, you stand at this crossroads because you recognize that some paths are meant to diverge. As you navigate this tumultuous sea of emotions, let this be your lighthouse, guiding you toward calmer waters.

Acknowledge the Urge: Recognize and acknowledge the urge for what it is—a natural response to memories, feelings, or unresolved emotions. Identifying it without judgment can diminish its power over you.

Remember Why You're Here: There's a reason you've chosen not to reach out, a reason that's grounded in self-respect, healing, or the pursuit of a healthier path. Remind yourself of this reason. It's your compass in this moment of uncertainty.

Seek Distraction: Engage in an activity that occupies your mind and diverts your attention. Whether it's diving into a book, going for a run, or immersing yourself in a creative pursuit, distraction can be a powerful tool in resisting the urge to reach out.

Connect with Someone Else: Reach out to a friend or family member—someone who understands, supports, and reminds you of the progress you've made. Connection can lessen the isolation that sometimes fuels our urge to revisit the past.

Write It Down: If the words are burning inside you, write them down. Penning a letter you never intend to send can be cathartic, allowing you to express your feelings without reopening old wounds.

Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Fighting the urge to text someone you shouldn't is an act of strength, but it's also okay to feel vulnerable. Treat yourself with the same compassion you'd offer a friend in your shoes.

Visualize the Outcome: Imagine the potential outcomes of sending that message. Often, our desire to reach out is rooted in a hope for a response or resolution that remains unlikely. Visualizing the realistic outcomes can reinforce your resolve.

Embrace the Present: Ground yourself in the present. The past, with all its what-ifs and might-have-beens, cannot be changed. Focusing on the here and now, on your growth and the journey ahead, is a step toward moving forward.

Remember You're Not Alone: Countless others have stood where you stand, wrestling with similar urges. There's strength in knowing you're not alone in this struggle, that like others, you too can navigate through it.

Celebrate Your Resilience: Finally, recognize the resilience you're displaying in this moment. Every time you resist the urge to reach out, you're affirming your commitment to your well-being and to the future you're building.

The path of healing and growth is rarely straight or easy, but it's a journey worth taking. In moments of weakness, remind yourself of the strength you possess, the reasons behind your choices, and the future you envision—one where you are whole, healed, and moving forward with grace.

With understanding and solidarity,

Jordan Spring