Every relationship has a cycle.. In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there ; doing nothing, and then something happened to you.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But trust me, after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria or maybe galaxy of love fades. It's a natural cucle of every relationship.
At this point, you and or... Your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person but it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because ; the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the PERSON YOU FOUND.
Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know what to do to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love it not mystery. There are specific things you can do with or without your partner, just as there are physical laws of the universe (suck as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply for these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a decision
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Shadows in Tears
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