What I Say

Society's Standards on Beauty

Well let me just say society's standards on beauty is pretty f*cked up.

When you tell a girl she's beautiful she will immediately disagree. And it's because of the message us teens receive. But each one of receives the message differently. We are literally taught through television,social media and superstars that you have to be noticed or famous or have money to be considered beautiful. Or in my case,some are taught that the opposites are more attractive.For example,I'm tall so I think the shorter are more attractive.

Well let me just tell you that we all suffer from this. That nagging voice in the back of your head saying you're not beautiful or that you will never be beautiful or good enough for anyone or anything. Its the message given to us at a young age so we fully absorb it by our teen years.

Let me point out something. I am about 5.7,5.8 and I'm only thirteen. For years i would let myself believe that that was why i was ugly,that was my biggest flaw. In my eyes the pretty girls were short...had straight red hair. The ones that could get a whole wardrobe of new expensive clothes with only batting their long eyelashes. So i continued telling myself that.

It was until last year I really found myself. I was talking to one of my friends and one them started crying. And if your a guy reading this understand this is actually a real issue for girls. I asked her what was wrong and she told me that she felt that the only reason she couldn't find a boyfriend was because of her boobs. That she was too flat and guys weren't into that. I was like,"Are you Serious!"I told her she was fucking gorgeous. But what she told me next really impact me for some reason. She told me it was easier for me to say.

That made my brain wheels turn. Like does she understand what she just said. She started ranting about how easy life will be for me because I have big breasts?Then I told her how she was clearly blind and she was much more lucky than I was. She could easily find someone with her height. I pointed out how no man in their right mind would want a taller girlfriend.

Then the whole group joined in....And I kept thinking why?Why couldn't I see what other people see. Why couldn't I believe myself when I say I feel pretty. Why couldn't I see myself falling in love? It was because I haven't truly accepted myself. I hadn't truly accept my mistakes and flaws and grown from that.

I'm not gonna waste my thumb energy writing a paragraph of why your perfect because it'll be worthless unless you truly believe it. Until you can say it to yourself and have no doubts about it.

One is beautiful when they find value in themselves and things around them. And uses their own value to create purpose. Or that's the way I see it. I believe my mother is beautiful because she is able to move on Sven with the multiple blows she has had in the past. I believe my girlfriends are beautiful because they are able to smile everyday even with the shit that happen in their life's.That's beauty.

So the question will you find your true beauty today. See how you beauty affects the people around you. And how without it so many things would change and perish. And how you still don't understand. Why your gorgeous. How your still blind. I promise you'll continue being bold until you find the beauty in each flaw. You are beautiful as long as you know it.