As yall noe ESFPs, they hate being left out and alone.
Well, i hate being left out.
It all started this year, where everyone starts to mature and everyone is in a competition for friendship.
Everyone races to get the perfect one. The one that understands you best, the one you have the most fun with, the perfect one. From then onwards, your adventure continues.
Would you treat her nicely?
Would you share your cookies with her? Would you accompany her for lunch?
Its your choices and her choices that will decide if this friendship continues or ends.
I've had a really good friendship with my best friend for 6 years and we've been described as "super glue". We've been seperated due to our different schools, but i believe this friendship will continue.
But I've never felt left out with her. Okay, maybe Jealousy when she's with someone else but being left out is different.
In my opinion, left out is like, it has to be in a group of 3 and above. Being left out is seriously a horrible thing, you feel so insecure, so sad, so angry and sad at the same time. Because to feel left out in a group, it must have been a one sided friendship. If you're in a group where everyone is nice, but its just that they unknowingly made you feel left out, then well i feel you. You dont want to break it off with them, yet they are hurting you unknowingly.
I dont think i have been in such a dilemma. Originally i never actually thought that i would be in a friendship of three. I've seen other group of friends functioning very well together as a group of 3 but i dont think they faced many problems with their friendship ;-;
Personally i think that being left out is a sign that your relationship with that particular friend or group of friends aint strong enough. Because if your relationship with them are strong enough, naturally being left out wouldn't even occur. Yes, not everyone understands each other to the extent of 100%, but i believe best friends understand about 40-60%? At least its how i think for my own best friends. Best friends aint mind readers all the time.
But i cant accept being left out for too long. Maybe one could endure it for quite a period of time but i think its actually impossible. Perhaps with enough faith and trust in your friend things could work out and you wont be that left out anymore, but personally i dont have the patience to wait unless its really a person worth waiting for.
Does left out come with jealousy? If i think about it, probably yes in certain circumstances. I admit i may be jealous like 80% of the time when im left out. Because its like, you're so jealous that u ain't with them that you feel left out. But i think Jealousy isnt linked with being left out all the time.
So here's what i think (ridiculous since this entire chapter is abt what i think lol)
If you're brave enough, fight for your own happiness. Everyone deserves to be happy (except for maybe bad people).
When i mean fight for your own happiness, its either :
1. Tell your friends that u feel left out
(not so directly ofc)
2. Leave them
(choose wisely, if they're really worthy of your trust then don't.)
3. Jump down the building
(A JOKE I REPEAT A JOKE)
4. Patiently wait for them
(nuh I aint got time for dat)
Please do not carry out number 3.
Well i carried out numer 1.
Though i slightly regret it i do hope things between me and my friends get better.
I know its weird with xinhui writing all these stuff, but when she cant really tell anyone how she feels and really needs to load of the burden then well she will refer to what she wrote here for further reference in the future before she does sth rash and horrible.
Okie so, yeah i understand how left out is really hard to deal with, but i think it is worth considering. For me, i take friendships seriously and i dont like people who toy around with my feelings. So yeah
I dont think it is very good to bottle up your thoughts but there are certain times where one must really bottle them up and think things thoroughly.
My parents told me that when you're really in deep trouble and require help, your family will help you when no one, even your closest friends, does.
However, i believe that friendships with others are very important things to consider and worry about. Family may be very important, but so are friendships too.
I actually dont know how to deal with being left out very well. Yes, i wrote those 3 thingys there but then i think it depends on the situation. There are so many other options one could take to solve their problem, but these are the three (excluding number 3 ofc) that are ingrained in my mind.
To those who actually bother to read this, im a piece of shit who writes weird stuff on wattpad. But i hope one day these chapters may help me in indecisive times.
