Praise your child's behavior.
Don't praise your child, but rather praise what she is doing. For example, instead of saying, "You're a hood girl for sitting quietly," say, "It's good you're sitting quietly." Focus your praise or disapproval on your child's behavior, because that is what you're interested in managing.
Decide on the specific behavior you would like to change.
If you focus on specific rather than abstract, you'll manage better. For example, don't tell your child to be neat; explain that you want her to pick up her blocks before she goes out to play.
Continue the praise as long as the new behavior needs that support.
Praising the appropriate things your child does reminds her of your expectations and reinforces your model of good behavior. Praise motivates your child to continue behaving appropriately.
Avoid being a historian.
Leave bad behavior to history and don't keep bringing it up. If your childs makes an error, constantly reminding her of it will only lead to resentment and increase the likelihood of bad behavior. What's done is done. Working toward a better future makes more sense than dwelling on the past. Reminding your children of their errors only reminds them of what not to do; it doesn't show them what to do.
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