I’ve heard people complain all my life, “why is the mean girl the prettiest?” Maybe the question you should be asking is “Why is the prettiest girl the meanest?” People who are considered pretty are often put under stress to continue being pretty. This goes to anyone who’s good at something. Imagine a girl who is very pretty. We’ll name her Ashley. Just by being pretty, other girls will see her as competition. They will envy her for having perfect hair and nice clothes. There will think that just because she spends hours on her hair and makeup that she thinks she’s better than everyone else. This is very far from the truth. Ashley is very insecure about the way she looks. She spends hours on her hair and makeup because she’s afraid that she’ll get made fun of if she didn’t. Ashley is so afraid of this that she tries desperately to secure herself into a spot where she can’t made fun of. She does this by putting other people down to put herself up. She ends up putting down the very people who she’s trying to impress. One day, they turn on her. They do the very thing she’s always tried to avoid. She realizes that all of the money she spent on clothes and makeup, all the times she didn’t eat even though she was starving because some guy said she looked a little chubby, all the times she cut her thighs because nothing else would make her stop replaying the moments never amounted to anything and she ends it. Why do you need to judge someone by the way they look or act? It’s never going to make you any happier and it certainly won’t make the other person stop or change. Prejudice will only ever cause more prejudice, but it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s up to you to break the cycle.
Communication is a lie, a beautiful lie that deceives us into thinking that we understand each other. You see, everyone has their own feeling and thoughts attached to each word we know. The thing is that we have no way of knowing exactly how the other person thinks of a word. Take the word red for instance. You identify it with the color that you were told was red. You may identify it with hot, spicy, stop, anger, hunger, or an assortment of of things. You also have your own personal feelings attached to it. You may identify red with blood from a traumatic childhood experience. No body feels the same exact way about red or blood or hot or anger as you do. You may identify it with the feelings you had when you first learned the word. Language works to communicate. I'm not disagreeing with that. I'm saying that we can't ever understand exactly what someone else is feeling. We may understand how we would feel in that scenario or circumstance, but we never can understand exactly how someone else feels through simple communication. It may not even be just verbal communication. It could be sign language, facial expression, even body language. The simple communication that we have access to jut can't tell us exactly how others feel.
People can have a very skewed definition of justice. If justice is giving people what they deserve, then justice and revenge aren’t very different. Justice is less personal. Justice means behavior or treatment that is based on what is morally right and fair, but who are we to judge what is right or fair. Everyone’s actions can be justified. “Why did you hit him?” “He stole my toy”. We, at a very young age, like to punish people for doing wrong, but how do we know what’s right and wrong? We punish children when they do something wrong by spanking them or putting them in time out so that they know what they did is wrong or so they will think of these consequences that parents have made up. I can almost guarantee that when you make a mess when you are 21, no one will make you sit in a corner for 15 minutes. If you teach a kid that when someone does something wrong, they deserve to be spanked or hit, how do you think that will turn out. At best, it will cause parents to always hit their kids. Nobody likes to do that, and if they do, how do you think that will turn out. Eventually, kids will get to the point where they are so afraid of getting punished that they will lie, manipulate, and frame other people or kids, and they can get really good at it. That or the kid just doesn’t care and will do “wrong” without thinking twice. Either way, the behavior isn’t corrected or made right. There are kids that won’t get into trouble after being punished a couple times, but they were the ones who weren’t going to be a problem anyway. It’s just easier to put the kid in time out than to try and figure out the whole situation and explain the consequences of their actions. Sometimes they didn’t even do anything “wrong”, they just annoyed you. I put the “wrong” in quotations because right and wrong are very subjectable. There is no specific “right” or “wrong”. Maybe they don’t actually exist. Maybe morals are simply things created by society so that people can live together more easily.
I’ve noticed that people are often extremely concerned about how they look. This may affect first impressions, but the people who stick around regardless of how you look or even act will be the ones who will see you for the glorious person you are. I don’t care what anyone says, everyone is amazing in some way or another. This includes you, and when people really get to know who you are, it won’t matter what you look like because they will only see an amazing person when they look at you.
