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Hypocrite

What is a hypocrite? Is a hypocrite really a hypocrite? Who decides who is or isn't a hypocrite? The Webster Meridian dictionary had defines it as " a person who clams or pretends to have a certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs" or "a person wo acts in a way that goes against what he or she claims to believe or feel" (Hypocrite). Yet, I still fail to comprehend. When did the line between speaking form experience and being a hypocrite get created? Maybe I just don't see the world as others do.

Take this scenario for example; a father walks up to his little boy and warns him to never smoke. However, as he walks away he lights a cigarette. What becomes of the father? Does he become a hypocrite or a man of wisdom? There are those who will surly scream hypocrite without a second thought. There are those like me. Those who analyze the situation clearly. Those who see the frown as he places the cigarette between his lips. Those of us who feel the pain in his eyes as he lights the tip. Those of us who hear the sigh of defeat and imprisonment disguised as an exhale of smoke. Those of us capable of identifying with the pain and struggles of others.

Take this other scenario for example; a twenty year old advises a group of teens to focus on school and leave the boys for later. As she walks away she holds the hand of her four year old child. What becomes of the woman? Of course she too will get shunned for being a hypocrite by some, but they don't know. They don't know that she's learned to take life seriously. They don't know that she's now on her path to becoming a great mother. They don't know that she simply wants those girls to be able to focus on being young rather than worrying about medical bills and baby formula. They don't know that her words might be the difference that one of those girls needed. They don't know.

Am I a hypocrite? Take my situation for example; I tell my mother that I'm ok. Once the camera switches off I become a sea of emotions. A tornado of confliction. I tell her that I am ok but I am not. Why would I lie about my emotions? Shell never know the truth. She'll never know that I miss home like crazy. She'll never know that I feel isolated from the world. She'll never know that I teared up after viewing the video of my baby sister taking her first steps. She'll never know that it's harder to be on my own than I expected. Why? Why lie to her when I myself detest liars?

Although, I will admit that every once in a while I come upon a situation where no matter how hard I try I cannot understand. I cannot understand why they said what they said or did what they did. No matter how just I try to be. No matter how much I try, I just can't see why. Why lie about what they or someone did/said? Why? Are they then a lying hypocrite? So who is the true hypocrite? What is a true hypocrite? Who is anyone to tell someone that they say or how they act is wrong or despiteful? Who is anyone to try to tell other that they aren't doing right?

Maybe we all are hypocrites. In our own way whether we know it or not they silent judgmental eyes others seem to cast is unwarranted for. Truly despicable. The label without knowing, as I label them as judgmental without knowing their reasons for doing so. I say don't judge yet judge other for judging. So, call me a hypocrite.

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