Hijabi Life

Arranged marriage

Asalamu'alaykum. A lovely girl messaged me last night and touched my heart.

She mentioned to me what she was going through and didn't know what to do? I though I'd give her advice on one of her main problems she is going through.

Her question was as follows:

Hey! I'm Husna. I'm 19 years old. My parent have arranged a marriage for me but I'm not ready for it. I want to study at the moment and succeed in achieving my dreams and aspirations but by this rate it won't happen.
My parents seemed very happy and I don't like disappointing them.. I'm sorry if I sound so dramatic but it's been getting to me.. should I just accept it and or not?

  Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for (many) Muslims across the world. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their future spouse through family or friends. Since, generally, Muslims do not "date" in the popular Western cultural sense, many couples look to arranged marriages as a means to wedded bliss. The expectation is that the seed for love is planted and will continue to bloom after the marriage.
Before any potential candidates are considered, families as a unit decide the values and characteristics that potential spouses should have so the couple have a satisfying life together. Once you are ready and permissible of getting married. Marriage is something that shouldn't be rushed. One day you will get married.. the day you are ready and comfortable with that decision. 

I just want to get it out there that one, Allah (azzawajal)knows what is best for you and when it's best for you to have it. Whoever puts his trust on Allah,he will suffice him.

Sometimes you have to do what's best for your life. If you want to concentrate on your studies than Khalas sister do that. The prophet (saw) loved education and those who educate themselves.

If your parent are really happy about it explained to them why you do not want to get married and i am  sure they'll understand. Your parents may not be the happiest straight away but after a while will be okay with it.
You should get married once your ready. In Islam it is obligatory for parents to ask for your consent when they are marrying you to someone.
The parents have a responsibility to ensure that both couples are compatible and do not arrange a marriage merely for their own social or personal reasons.

Sit your parents down and tell them how you feel. They may not be happy straight away but they will consider it after a while.

Asalamu'alaykum
May Allah make you life at ease.
We will all pray dua for you inshallah.