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Should I move on ?

Asalamualaykum Guyss !!
So I was asked a question by a sister recently which I won't name because it's a bit personal to her. The question is:
I have to 2 Best friends that I'm close to but at times they can be a bit mean towards me. Not necessarily making fun of 'kind of mean' but sarcastic comments and leaving me out 'kind of mean'. There making me feel worthless in a way and insignificant. I would usually laugh it off or act like nothing wrong but it's getting to me now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to loose them but I want them to stop this ?

I'm so sorry you feel this way.
You should never be made to feel worthless by anyone, especially people who are supposed to be your best friends. It's mean that they're leaving you out and I don't blame you for feeling so down about this.

Unfortunately, I've seen this happen more than once in groups of friends, especially three friends –one girl always seems to get left out and pushed to the side while the other two girls get closer and closer. Sometimes this is an honest mistake. It's natural for some friendships to get stronger during a period of time while others get weaker. It's possible that your friends don't realize just how much they're leaving you out and hurting you. So you might not want to jump to any conclusions?

Try talking to them about this again, and maybe this time, talk to them each one-on-one. Explain to both of them exactly how you feel – hurt, lonely, sad and confused. Let them know how much you care about them and how much their friendship means to you. Tell them you're not trying to tear them apart, but you would like for things to go back to the way they were when the three of you hung out all the time.

If they apologize and seem sincerely sorry and make an effort to include you, then great!Don't always wait for them to call or ask you to hang out. If you see them leaving class together, join them. If you overhear them making plans, ask if you can come.

If things between the three of you start to seem awkward or weird or really forced, or if they don't change at all after your second talk, then I'm sorry to this, but you guys might have just grown apart. This happens a lot in friendships, sometimes no matter how much we want it to. Don't beat yourself up for feeling sad. Losing a friend is sad and it's okay to feel bummed out about it.
But what you should never feel is worthless, stupid or not good enough for people. If your friends don't want to make time for you, then they're the ones who are missing out. Try to forget about them as much as possible and move on to friends who care about you and love you. Try getting closer to your other friends by hanging out and talking to them more. Short on pals? Get yourself involved in a fun after school activity or just try striking up a convo with that girl who seems cool in your gym period. Making new friends is easier than you think but I'm not telling you it's going to be totally easy but trust me it's going to be WORTH IT ;)!!!
I hope this helped you and I'm sure everything is going to be okay! Stay strong and positive :)
Hope this helped !!<33