Love Sayings

The Honeymoon Phase

The Honeymoon Phase 

Every couple goes through it. It's roughly the first three months of a relationship every couple experiences at the beginning where they think that everything about the person they love is perfect and amazing. This is where our heart is blind and brain is intoxicated with the love drug we feed ourselves everytime we get a chance to spend time with our significant other. Our ego is asleep as we try to reel in closer our significant other; moving mountains, understanding short comings because things are still anew.

It's like your relationship was pulled out of a fairytale... things are just so perfect and everything feels so right.

Unfortunately, all good things usually comes to an end, hence the Honeymoon "PHASE". After the first three months, you'll start to notice that things aren't like how it was from the start. If at first he would pick you up, now he'd just meet you there instead. Back then, all he ever did was text you. Now, he rarely texts to see how your day went... and if he does reply it'll be short like "Ok, np." They used to let fights slide from their egos so that things could be fixed and the relationship would survive. But when you two fight now, your egos are on guard and you are willing to break it off just to say it wasn't your fault.

What seemed to be such an amazing love story pulled out from a novel now feels like it's lost it's spark.

...and do you want to know why?

The difference between your relationship back then and your relationship right now is simply yourself. "Naghirap ka para makuha mo yung gusto mo. Nung nakuha mo na, hindi ka na nag-effort kasi nasayo na ang gusto mo." In short, you just stopped trying. A lot of people have this mentality and the perfect example that we can use for this is your cellphone. At first you would gently put it on the table but now you just throw it even if it bangs up. Your mentality would be like, "I can get a new one." In relationships, when you love someone, you don't replace them. You do what it takes to maintain the relationship. You take care of it. The moment you get comfortable and lazy trying to keep your relationship healthy and fresh, the honeymoon phase ends.

Loving someone is not something you do on your free time. It's something you do 24/7 that you need to maintain if you want to keep. Always make the effort to do even little things 'cause the little things add up.

"Just don't stop trying and don't stop loving."