Blame game and stuff- the thing seems to continue forever. We blame our parents. They blame us, and the thing continues. At the same time, we can't forget that we love them, and they love us. The generation gap comes in between and even broadens more and more, preventing us to not converse properly.
The world is changing. The ideas are changing. The world doesn't revolve on the same axis it revolved back then. But some people move along with it; some don't. Many of the parents don't drift along. The things that we find liberating may be indiscipline for them.
In the changes, our lives get affected, but whose monopoly our lives are? Is it our right to live the way we want? Or are we answerable to someone? The word answerable should restrict to the area that we respect them, not that we fear them. It would be fair if we start making our decisions on the things that we want.
I can recall an incident when the parents didn't attend their own son's wedding because the bride's parents said something that the groom's parents found insulting. Despite their apologies (that I found demeaning to their self respect), the parents were firm on the decision that if their son marries that girl, they won't be there to witness the wedding.
So what is this? A foolish play on the parent's part or the disobedience on the child's part? In our Indian society, these conflicts generally start with the child's girlfriends/ boyfriends, extendable to marriage. Some are still stuck in marrying in their own caste, and find love marriages quite objectionable, and Ha! Same sex marriages are still in the 'Delhi is too far' phase. You accidentally loved a so called 'low caste' girl/boy, and mate, you're dead.
Working late is still an issue for some parents in case of girls. Not sending these girls outside their towns, objections on the clothing behavior is the part I would not dare to blame on our parents because the society still is the biggest fucktard.
Children are not machines. No one can program them and use them in the way they want. It's rather advisable that parents stand firmly besides their children to assist them in their decisions, but stay far enough that they don't suppress their decisions.
The motive that lies in this is not at all blaming on Bad Parenting, but rather on blaming it on the guidelines set by the society on the Parenting.
In this all, I couldn't help but wonder: against all odds, do they love us enough to accept the way we are?
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