Choices? Yes, our choices are the things that define us who we are. But who decides that the definition that is drawn out of our choices sketches the real version of us. What if our naiveté has pushed us to do it? But does the choice of having sex before marriage pulls into the crowd that is not seen well?
Sex was never a taboo subject in ancient India and neither was women's subjugation, homosexuality (Yes, homosexuality was acknowledged) or the. But what has entered on the culture now? Shame? Safety?
The topic isn't about the people who have their reservations about the topic. If they don't want to have it, no issues; don't do it. We are a democratic country; every one of us is free to make their life choices. But we can't walk around and bash people who love it. "There is no thing as slut. Some people like to have sex. Get over it."
But why is the coitus is made so special? Why can't the hype of it just settle down? Why can't it be taken same as the need of the body, just as breathing or circulation? What is with special treatment?
The world is changing. We are changing. And change is good. Who wants to remain static anyways? The idea of sex is changing. The idea of marriage is changing. We have, for good, left the times when the marriage was a necessity, and at times, just a cultural bondage. Some people marry late. Some never do, so what's the problem with a live-in? We are definitely been influenced by the western culture (Oprah never married, and is in a live-in with her partner since 1975), but the influence is good. It's healthy.
People live together, cook together, and do the chores together. They like each other, and have sex too. Why is the need of a tantrum?
People who worry about the issues like STDs or unwanted pregnancies also have reasonable doubts. There is a definite need to use protection when we enter an intimate relationship. And we guess, the work is being done in the area of sex education. But what's all about the slut-shaming? Even if the boys are also made to feel guilty about it, our society has made them immune from it. The girls suffer the vicious attacks and often are labeled with various adjectives.
It's needed that we work on the broadening our horizon, and don't make this a matter of cultural defiance, but nevertheless, we are well aware, we are going to be judged one way or another.
I couldn't help but wonder: have we become walking judgement machines?
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