About 80 percent siguro sa atin sa LGBT community would say na 'the last people na nakaalam ng sexual orientation nila are their parents', or siguro nga mas madami pa din yung hindi pa alam ng parents nila yung totoong sexuality nila. I'd speak for everyone, and I know everyone would agree, na mahirap magcome out sa parents. Mas madaling magtapat sa mga friends natin, right? Sa barkada, bestfriend, or sa mga pinsan mo na ka-close mo?
Bakit nga ba mahirap?
1. "They are the people who raised you." Syempre, lahat ng magulang, they want to raise their children to become good people, or best if possible. Ang hirap na madisappoint mo sila. Masakit na marinig sa kanila yung "Hindi kita pinalaki para maging ganito."
2. "You know how they would react." Syempre natatakot ka, dahil alam mong pwede ka nilang itakwil, palayasin o saktan. Mahirap magtapat sa kanila lalo't alam mong umaasa ka pa rin sa kanila pagdating sa pag-aaral, pagkain, tirahan at lahat ng gastusin mo para mabuhay araw-araw. Sa sandaling malaman nila, paano ka na lang diba?
3. "Sexuality is a very awkward thing to talk about in front of your parents." Kahit nga straight ka pa, and you will talk about it with your parents, ang weird pa din at ang hirap magstart ng conversation. When I got pregnant, I wasn't able to tell my mom about it at first. Instead, it was my friends who knew from the start. Sa huli, hindi ko pa din nasabi sa kanya, it was my aunt who told her about it. I mean, yung ganung matter nga, ang hirap na, pano pa kaya yung sa sexuality?
4. "'Cause even your parents can bully you." They might judge you. Kase, ang magiging tingin nila sa'yo eh isang taong maysakit, na kelangang gumaling, na kelangang magbago. They might feel like they have to change you. They think like something's wrong with you, when in fact you are absolutely perfect. May mga parents kase na katulad lang din ng ibang tao.
So parents, we call out to you. Whether your child comes out by himself/herself, or you discovered it unintentionally, let your child feel that you are on his/her side. Your child needs you now, so assure them that they will always be loved no matter what. Set aside your beliefs or prejudices for now, do not reject them.
Kahit bakla yan or straight, yan pa din yung anak mo. Hindi nagbago yan after nya magcome out, so you should still treat your child as your child. Continue cooking his/her favorite food, continue going out every weekend, do the usual things you do together, cause your child didn't change. What has changed is your knowledge as a parent, because you have learned an important part of who they are.
-admin bee🐝
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