So all through my life, I've realized a lot of people are quick to judge people with scars of self harm. People are quick to say that it's all a mental illness, when all reality it's not. Different people fight different battles and have different stories so keep it in mind when seeing someone who has scars.
The other day I was on Facebook and I came across this picture of a beautiful feather tattoo on a girls wrist. She did have self harm scars on her wrist, but in my opinion it only made the tattoo more meaningful. Maybe she bettered herself that she didn't need to cut anymore and decided that covering it up would be a way to turn her back from her past. The people in the comments weren't so open minded. There were too many mean comments over powering the positive. People were posting stuff like: "Maybe she's just another scene kid", "Wow, someone is looking for attention", "This tattoo was beautiful, the scars ruin it.", and so on and so forth.
Most of the comments were very upsetting and the ones defending her were being bombarded with rude remarks. It upsets me that people don't know anyone's story, yet they judge others who have a story of self harm, suicide, eating disorders, ect. They don't know what is going on in that persons life that they have to resort to that.
If you are reading this and you do self harm, or have any thoughts of suicide, or have an eating disorder, just know it gets better. People are always going to be judgmental and its never going to change, but please be strong. If you do have self harm marks on your skin, don't hate it, or let others judge you for it, you were strong and you got through that part of life, you just have to keep pushing. Think of someone important in your life (weather its your parents, or your siblings, or a family member, even a best friend) and put the blade, lighter, whatever you use to self harm down and stay away from it as long as you can. If you have/do self harm I have 2 projects I want you to try. I want you to try the butterfly project (Picture some where on the side, or up top if on app) and/or freeze your blade so when you have the urge to cut, you have to wait for it to melt(without using anything to melt it faster) and when it does finish melting the urge to cut should be gone.
If you know someone who self harms, show them support by showing them the butterfly project and doing it with them for support. Let them know they're not alone in their fight. Talk to them, and sometimes just listen and hug them. Don't EVER us their self harm against them, and just be there cause this is the moment when they need you most.
And if you're reading this and you feel alone and you feel like you have no where to turn just message me on here. I promise I wont judge you because I know life isn't easy and we have these stupid bumps that throw us off. No one deserves to feel alone in a hard time, and even though I don't always have the right words to say, I will try and be there for you weather you self harm or not. I know what being alone feels like, what depression feels like, what it feels like to be lost, and I don't wish any of that on anyone, so if you need to talk just message me and I'll be more than happy to try and help.
If you haven't self harmed, all I ask is please don't judge the person who has. If they wear long sleeve shirt, or pants when its hot to hide their scars don't question them. Don't think they're doing it for attention, or that they have a mental illness. Remember they have a story too.
The kindest thing you can do for anyone is smile, a smile might help save a person's life.
I want to end this asking people who have and do self harm to hide your blade for a little while and remember you're not alone. I want everyone to smile at someone today and say hello, help brighten someone's day, it could be your smile that makes their day better.
Thanks.
-Jovy♡
