Of course, everyone is different. We all have varied experiences.
But
Sometimes we are similar.
When your spectrum is huge like mine- or just in general- there can be days where you wake up and know exactly what you are that day.
Or the opposite.
Sometimes there are days where I wake up and have to sit for a solid 10 minutes just thinking about what gender I am. This makes me ponder if im even genderfluid.
Is it all in my head?
What if I'm crazy?
I dont really exist do I?!?!
And yeah this sucks. Most of the time I just list genders and I figure out "Oh that sounds right, pronouns feel right, ok here we go" and I get dressed. But on the other days I give up and can't figure it out.
If you have days like this, I kind of have something that works to fall back on. If you can stand it no matter what gender you are, wear neutral clothes like a slightly baggy t-shirt and pants or shorts that are sporty or like I'll wear boys basketball shorts if its warm and girls yoga pants if cold. Either feels bareable when I'm conflicted like that. Most of the time when I can't figure it out I realize later in the day and I feel so accomplished and I'm like "YEAH IM *insert gender* TODAY"
So yeah, tips for tough days when you can't figure out what you are.
Love you all, stay positive and proud. You are valid ❤
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