Genderfluid 101

ANOTHER PSA CUZ I CAN

I keep forgetting to say this but i have a weird opinion that i think a lot of people will hate me for.

Most people agree that it's pretty transphobic to not want to date someone who's trans if you're straight. Here's why i disagree.

Everyone is allowed to have preferences. It's NOT ok to disrespect pronouns and boundaries, not ok to sexualize minors, and it's not ok to hurt someone mentally or physically for not liking them or their preferences/lifestyle/beliefs.

So, if you are a straight male, you really like this girl. She's trans, but you dont mind because you love her personality. It's ok to set sexual boundaries if you aren't comfortable. If you are trans you cannot force someone to have sex with you if you haven't transitioned yet and they do not want to.

That goes both ways, if you're cis and your trans partner has transitioned but still is not comfortable enough to have sex, you have to respect that.

People are gonna disagree. "It's transphobic to say you arent comfortable cuz she is a girl!" While yes, a transgirl is a girl, if she has a lesbian partner then that partner should be allowed to not be sexually attracted to them. If you love someone, your mind may make an exception for them. But still, you can't always change that part of you for someone, and you shouldnt have to.

If the partner of the trans person is respectful about expressing their honest feelings, I think it's ok.

Yes, it is transphobic to say you wont date them SOLELY because they're trans. But if it's truly for the reason that you physically will not be comfortable then I honestly believe that you should be able to feel that way. Some lesbians don't like masculine girls, if we accept that then other preferences are allowed.

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