Genderfluid 101

Tips for Coming Out

SmartLikeGranger asked a really good question, how do you go about coming out to your friends? Especially as genderfluid?

Well, if you wanna you can just tell them but as a socially awkward bean I cant do that and I know other people cant either.

So, you could do what I did. Make a journal entry in a journal or just write it out on a slip of paper your questioning and discovery of your gender. I used my journal as like a chatting device during school with my friends so that's how I told them so I didnt have to do it face to face. I even explained how I felt with pronouns and stuff, though most ignored my gender all together and still to this day see me as a girl. Anyway, so you could do it that way, or if you want to have a one on one with friends and come out to each seperately then you can do something similar, and just let them see it. Also, texting can do the same thing. Making a group chat or if you're telling like 3 people just text them seperately.

Now, this isnt the only way, obviously. There's sooo many things online that can help you come out and a lot of them pertain to sexuality, so you can just swap it out for gender.

For several people, using genderfluid as a label is often a transitioning phase. Helping you start to feel better about questioning your gender. But for me, and many others, it's permanent. Coming out when you finally have an explanation for why you wake up with a different feeling every single day feels so so good. Thats why you might want to get creative. Maybe, wearing different colors every day depending on what gender you are as what color you associate it with. I tend to follow the flag personally. But make sure it's a similar object (same format shirt, earrings, etc.) Then your friends might notice (if they don't they're probably a little slow like me or dont care about what you wear) and you can explain.

Maybe you can buy genderfluid colored things, like a mug with the flag on it, pins with your pronouns (if they're different from what you've used before), etc. That costs money, but your friends can see and be like "oh thats the genderfluid flag!" "Are those your pronouns?" "What does that stand for?" And you can explain.

As someone who's broke, not out to my mom, and bullied for being who I really am lets just say there's better ways.

I saw one time someone put on the bottom of their mug "I'm gay" and drank in front of their mother to come out. This could be something that could work for your friends. Making notes in general could provide many creative ways to show it off to people to come out.

Advice: don't do anything you aren't comfortable doing unless you're sure you're going to be ok. Its ok to go out of your comfort zone but dont risk a panic attack to say it face to face. Also, dont assume everyone knows what all the terms mean. Your friends will genuinely ask what genderfluid means if they dont know and truly care. If they just say "ok cool I dont even know what that means" then that shows they dont care. If they accept you but look confused offer an explanation, they may just be scared to offend you by asking. If you're not sure it's a permanant label for you, then be honest about it. It's ok to not be sure, it's ok to be wrong, you'll figure it out in the future. That's ok :)