The Path of Positivity By: Brandon A. Webley

Chapter 14: Different Adversities

There's many different adversities we face everyday. Question is can we learn from them? The answer: yes we can learn from our adversities even if we make a mistake. Still, if we learn from it, we can learn to not make the same mistake again if we couldn't get it for the first or second time. Next question is can we overcome any adversity in life? Yes we can overcome any adversity no matter what it is. The only two main reasons for the questions I asked you are one we can learn from any adversity if we made a mistake and two we can accomplish anything if we overcome any adversity. Like I said before, we have many different adversities all of us faced everyday. As of now, I'm going to list three of them. The three adversities we face everyday are negative people, forks in the road, and self esteem.

Let's start talking about the main thing that is an adversity to any of us negative people. This is the number one adversity we mostly face everyday. Like, they tell us that we can't do anything, it's too difficult, or just quit. You know what I say to that? No! Truth is I'm not going to sit or stay where I'm standing if a negative person is telling me I can't make it to the top. I've been through it enough.

The next topic I want to talk about is a fork in the road. Now most of you are wondering what's a fork in the road? Here's the answer; a fork in the road is like a something or a someone that stands in your path. We have faced these kinds of predicaments before. An adversity can be solved with a little hard work and problem solving.

For instance, money is the biggest adversity when a fork in the road occurs. The reason is sometimes people don't have the money to pay things in life. The three things people can't afford in life are very nice houses, cars with technology in the interior, and rent for their homes. Sometimes a fork in the road can occur in your personal life. A relationship between you and your significant other can have one. One of the few reasons is an argument. When one happens, one of these scenarios can be a reason. It's either a divorce if married or if it's just a relationship for a boyfriend and girlfriend, there's many things that can happen. One of them is that someone else confessing their love. It doesn't matter if a girl confesses her love to the boyfriend or a guy confesses his love to the girlfriend. It's still the same faith. After an argument, the lovers will sooner or later make up. If it goes over the line, then there's no second chance after making a mistake that never should have been done due to the wrong actions.

I remembered my longest relationship still to this day. It lasted for a year and 2 ½ months until I got flattered from another woman. My significant other was mad, she dumped me, and broke my heart into pieces. For three months, I was in a very dark place. I was binge eating constantly which gave me an eating disorder, my hair grew at a rapid place, so did my facial hair, I felt very depressed everyday, and I would never come out of my room. Like I would stay in there until the pain from my break up puts me to sleep. Plus from those three months of being depressed, I didn't care about anything at all anymore. On my days off from work, I did nothing but played my video games in my room all day.

The final topic I want to talk about is self esteem. Most of you are asking yourselves what's self esteem? Self esteem means confidence in one's worth, abilities, or self respect. There's times we let it get to us. It affects us differently from experiences we had in the past. It can be relationship problems, appearances, whatever the case may be. For appearances, it's about how you look . Women feel self conscious about how their bodies look. In a matter of fact, many of them wants to do plastic surgery just on their faces, but on their body parts. For instance, many women do plastic surgery on their breasts or anywhere else that needs it. Reason is they think one breast is bigger than the other, they need to make them look bigger, or some other third thing which can be a reason.

Here's a tip for the women around the world, don't let negativity get to you or the looks you have. Every single one of you are beautiful just the way you are. People are jealous, just ignore them. As for a relationship now, it's about being someone else's worth. In this scenario, you're afraid that your new future significant other may or may not want to start a relationship with you. Fact is if they want to be friends with you, then stick to being friends,. If it's something more than that, keep your boat afloat. In other words, whoever you're with, stick to the person you really want to love for the rest of your life.