The Path of Positivity By: Brandon A. Webley

Chapter 15: Relationship

A relationship is a very marvelous, but mostly a glorious thing to be in life. In this part of the book, I'm not going to mention any names. From experience, I've had relationships before. I was involved in some that only lasted a few days, weeks, and months. The longest relationship I've been in lasted for a year and almost three months.

Now I want to share a true story I experienced. As you listen along, don't just follow with your eyes, but with your heart. It all began when I first made my debut on the dating scene in 2013. When I was 20 years old, I had my first relationship, and I felt very happy about it. It was a woman who was 4 years younger than me. We went out on our first date at the Wellington mall, we met at Macy's after a month of talking, we chatted to get to know each other, and we kissed on our first date. My mother and I also took her home. A month later, I was in the shower, and got my heart broken for the first time after receiving text messages. That was the last time I spoke to her again after going through all that crap. What did it cost me?

After that, I was single for three years because the woman I had my first relationship with, started dating my best friend. Every time I went to the mall, I look at a boyfriend and girlfriend, I look at them as I say to myself "so that's what love is." After moving with my father in 2016, my days of being single were over because I found a new woman that a friend I met at a group called MAC (My Autism Connection) really knows her. She was part of the group years ago before getting kicked out. After a month of talking through Facebook messenger, text messages, and phone calls, we decided to meet in person. FYI, we've started talking in May. During in June 2016, the both of us met in her city Estero at Target in Coconut Point. We did a lot of stuff and made memories together after a year gone by. From hangouts, celebrating each other's birthdays, getting together on certain holidays, and most of all loving each other was my favorite part.

Everything went out great until I got flattered from another woman. Not only I lied to the other woman by telling her that I was single instead of being taken, but I cheated on the woman I was with, and most of all I dishonored my relationship. On top of that, I lost everything I once had. A future wife and good relationship after a good year wasted down the drain. The pain from my break up led me to depression, binge eating causing to form an eating disorder, my hair growing at a rapid pace, listening to sad love songs everyday, and my facial hair grew also. Plus I was in a very dark place that I didn't belong for three months. After being heartbroken, the pain still kills me till this day. Which made me question myself why my relationship got away from me?

Earlier this year in February after a few months later of moving back to West Palm Beach, I thought I found love again after I met a woman in Lake Worth, but apparently, this time the woman I tried to get to know didn't like me from the beginning and felt bad for me. I thought she wanted to have a relationship at first after I asked and she said yes. Unfortunately, I had no luck and she didn't want one. Which led me to more depression and left me single again. So now what have I learned from all of this? Stick with the person you currently have, but also love them and don't leave them.

I heard of a quote that taught me a very valuable lesson. I want to share it with you. The quote is: "If you want a relationship that looks and feels like it's the most amazing thing on Earth, you need to treat it like it's the most amazing thing on Earth. Just like if a girl having a boyfriend or a guy having a girlfriend, each of them have to give the same qualities in a relationship just like they would give for their significant other. There's five qualities you should give in a relationship like you would give to your significant other. They're loyalty, trust, respect, faith is definitely a must, and most importantly love. There's other things that are involved with the five qualities I listed, but that was just naming a few. If I had to choose the most important quality in relationship, I choose faith. I chose faith because between you and your significant other, the day you marry him or her, you both are living in a Christian home underneath a roof by God's protection. Unless if you don't believe in god, then you have the other four options to take. Usually I'm not very lucky with women because I usually get ignored or stared at all the time without the women noticing me.

With that being said, from every relationship I've been through I've been cheated on, backstabbed, dumped, betrayed, dumped in silence, and verbally abused. Sometimes when I'm in bed at night, I ask myself "What did I do wrong?" From my relationships that I've had over the years, I keep asking myself what caused each one to get away with it?