A Girls Survival Guide

Friend Zoned

The friend zone.

I'm pretty sure you guys have heard about this.

Friend zone, in the urban dictionary it means 'What you attain after you fail to impress a woman or a man you're attracted to. Usually initiated by the woman or man saying, "You're such a good friend".'

In simpler terms it means no matter what you do or what you say, he or she will always look at you as a friend and only a friend.

Some say that 'hey you should confess,yada yada...'

but it only sounds simpler in terms of words.

When you say it, it has four outcomes.

One.

She or he will accept these feelings and you become a couple, yada yada and you live happily ever after.The end.

Second.

she or he will misdirect it and pretend you didn't even say anything about your feelings so practically, it'll all go back to normal.

i believe this one is quite popular, its when things starts to get edgy and awkward.

Like when you say hi, you could feel like he or she is just forcing a smile and usually that would lead to the last stage

Let's call it the...

'I-had-tons-of-memories-with-him/her-but-things-got- a-little-awkward-so-we-stopped-talking'

Usually many of it ends on that, so if your thinking of confessing try thinking first.

It's not like I'm stopping you but are you sure your willing to risk it?

Sure, you like him or her a lot but did you remember what you signed up for?

You signed up to be the friend so expect that he or she treats you like one.

That may sound really bad to hear but this is reality and if you remember correctly reality sucks.

Now if you don't tell this person about it, that'll also be a problem.I mean bottling up your emotions can sometimes be really bad for you.

Instead of you confessing you start being awkward around him or her.

Trust me things will get weirder especially if this person has a girlfriend or a boyfriend.

Let me give you a scenario, i know a girl who was really close to this guy.They were kind of inseparable, the girl was so closed off and was really geeky and an introvert while the guy was a player and outgoing and had been in a on and off relationship with this lady.

Yeah she fell for him.

I told her that she was stupid for falling for someone like him, I kept thinking why she hadn't thought of her past two relationships.

Then again, she confessed.

They fought.

She cried.

I heard the guy was going to get married with the lady he had an on and off relationship.

So that sort of made it kinda hard.

The girl after all was my older sister so it kinda made me protective of her.

See, there was no happy ending their.

I'm just saying I don't care if your a stranger but I don't want you guys to end up like that.

It's horrible to watch it, how much more when your the one who feels it?

So here's some tips that may help you in the friend zone.

1.Try talking to a friend

No not just any friend,somebody who can keep your secret till she or he is in their coffin.it's better than just bottling it all up.

2.Don't let the people get to you first.

Usually when people find out first, they tell people.People tell people. It becomes a rumor.Until it reaches your crush or friends ears and trust me it'll be worse than a private confession.

3. Ask yourself three times

If your thinking of confessing, ask yourself 'Am I willing to risk it?' thrice. Sometimes we may or may not like the outcome but at the end of the day it's up to us if we think a confession is alright.

4.Like I said don't bottle it up.

Usually these things would lead to depression and sometimes you tend to do the craziest shit when your bottling your emotions, like I said in tip number one.A trusted friend is always going to help you and what are friends for right?

5.Fights

When he or she finds out you like him and you start fighting because of it, find a way to meet up with this person.IN PRIVATE.Say to him or her that you do like him or her, but your hoping it wouldn't strain your friendship.If that doesn't work then wait for a few days until this person cools down and try approaching him or her again.

that is the beginning stage, sometimes these people won't be your friends again until you stop liking this person so the choice is yours, your friendship or your emotions?

I won't give any advice on that, that's your choice.

Till then