A Girls Survival Guide

Answers to questions asked to RRX

QUESTION ONE

Dear RRX,

hi :-), I am ------ and I am also a sophomore. I had a question about appearances. I have dark brown hair that is really curly, kinda afro-y but not. All of my friends have stick straight hair and feel out of place sometimes.(i am mixed by the way) I have talked to my mom about relaxers (chemicals to straighten my hair) but I am not sure I could do that. I like my hair, but I felt different and uncomfortable sometimes. Like at sleepovers I have to wear a cap when I sleep or my hair gets supper dry but none of my friends have to. it is awkward also when I say I don't wash my hair daily. if I relax my hair I feel like I would be more comfortable around my friends. But I also don't want to get rid of my hair natural curls. What should I do?

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heyy, --- I totally understand your situation. I am not going to lie, I have had relaxers. They aren't as awesome and problem solving as you think. you hair is waayyy drier, and you will never get those same curls back unless you cut your hair off. I am jealous of your hair, the way it sounds; I am transitioning to hair with waves/texture. I am surrounded by people with straight hair too, but don't give up your curls unless it is your decision. If you like you curls by all means, keep them. For all we know, your friends might even envy your curls. I know people that wish their hair has volume and natural curl like that. Own those curls, I bet they are gorgeous. :-) and if later on, you want to relax your hair go right ahead. Just make sure you are doing it for you, not for anyone else. You should also check out the chapter titled Self Confidence.

Hope this helped, :)

QUESTION TWO

Dear RRX,

Why do people assume things?

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To be 100% honest, I don't know. I can assume (wink wink) why people assume. My guess is that people because they have a subconscious filter. Based off of past experiences, memories, comments, and environment, we link facial expressions and behaviors with types of people. For example, if a woman grew up around classy people that didn't smoke, do drugs or anything. If that woman later on saw a man smoking outside of a restaurant she would think that man has no class, why is he smoking? ( just an example, plz don't be offended) That woman would place that man in a stereotype box of classless and gross. For all we know he could be CEO. Humans do that every day. You see someone, and in your head you can tell whether that person is bad news or someone you would love to be friends with, etc. Sometimes, you don't even realize you are doing it. It's a natural habit we , as people, should no longer have. Putting people in little stereotypical boxes doesn't help anyone. It actually, in cases, hurts them. We like to think we know them, but we don't and we judge them. No one wants to be judged because they didn't party this weekend like the 'cool kids' did. All in all, we assume because our brain connects the dots in our head and places people in a box. What I have hoped you have picked up from this little spiel, is that we need to take a step back, and realize what we are doing and refrain from judging. :0

Hope this helped.

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