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Starting from where I left in my last article, love and attachment are two sides of a coin. They both are completely different from one another. Some might feel that from attachment starts love but that's wrong. Where there is attachment, there is no love and the vice versa. Be it parents or brother/sister or husband or boyfriend. Anyone on whom you have affection or attachment, will not be considered love.
Love is selfless whereas attachment is selfish.
How?
Some might feel what nonsense am I saying. I don't blame you for thinking like this because even I did. It took me a lot of time to realise that we humans mistake attachment for love. We think these two are dependent on one another but the truth lies elsewhere.
Our parents do so much to give us a luxurious life, a life filled with happiness etc. They leave no stone unturned to give us the best in life. They mistake it to be their love for us which is not so. This is only their attachment. The thought within them that I will give my child everything in this world makes the difference. Though their struggle is real but goes in vain when the child becomes a lot dependent on those luxuries and refuses to perform their duties towards their family and the society. Those luxuries make them blind and more expectations start to grow within them. These expectations are the most destructive feelings any human can have. I too have.
For Eg: When I see my neighbours having A/c at their homes even I expect to have the same. In fact, there were days when I fought with my parents for an A/c. It is a very small expectation but it was wrong. Though they never brought and fixed one at home and I am proud that they didn't feed my expectations. Maybe that's why today I can understand how wrong it is to expect anything from anyone or from life.
Genuinely, I never got anything that I expected from life. I gradually learnt to be happy with whatever I had, thanks to my parents. But not every parent thinks the same way, there are many who go till any extent to get their kid's wish fulfilled. To all those people, It's a request from my side that please sacrifice your attachment towards your kids. Teach them to perform their duty without any expectations. Make them a better person and nurture their characters. Focus less on any kind of things or people for happiness and be happy with what you have.
As I speak about this prem and moh , a beautiful lesson of Lord Krishna comes into my mind. Before killing Guru Dhronacharya, Lord Krishna explains him where he went wrong in the kuru battle.
Lord Krishna, the avatar of Lord Vishnu himself tells Guru Dhronacharya that he failed to teach his son the lesson of life, he failed to make him a better person. Hence he is just a person who teaches and failed to become a guru( one who is equivalent to god).
For which Guru Dhronacharya tells him that he has given his son everything in life. He nurtured him with so much love. Krishna here corrects him and says that he never showered love upon his son. Love is something which gives us the freedom and doesn't tie us. Guru Dhronacharya tied in the love of his son refused to choose the right path. Though he knew that he was in the side of adharma but still he decided to fight for the kauravas in the attachment that he had for his son. Krishna calls Guru Dhronacharya's love as attachment(moh) here. He says that his attachment for his son Ashwathama was the reason behind his cruelty. It was the reason which stopped Ashwathama and him from supporting the right and made them choose the wrong path. He calls Guru Dhronacharya selfish as he tried to give his son all the luxuries and happiness in this world but couldn't shape his character. His attachment for his son made him do this. So he was not fit to be called a Guru. He was just a person who teaches.
My dear fellow readers,
Everything that happens in our lives comes with a lesson. Dream higher but never make that dream your expectation from life because there will be such times when you don't get what you dream for. Take this positively and work harder. Something better is waiting for you. Never lose hope in life because time changes and change is the ultimate thing which exists in this world. Nothing remains constant in life.
