Chain of thoughts

Possessiveness

It was just yesterday that my best friend showed me a picture of her friend's status. Wherein her friend had mentioned something with regard to possessiveness. She had also mentioned below that true friendship will always have possessiveness. It was then that I felt how important was it to educate people about what true friendship or a true relationship is. Definitely after reading that me and my best friend laughed aloud because we kind of think alike.

Now coming to possessiveness which everyone has for a person in their life. Be it for your mother, father, brother, sister, friend, love or your husband. Even I had for my friends. I never realised how wrong was I to have that feeling until I lost a friend of mine.

Yes, I lost my friend because of my possessiveness. It was a terrible feeling and then I started thinking where things went wrong. I failed to find out the reason after which I saw something which helped me so much in realising what was wrong in me. The ones who have been reading my posts would have guessed by now that it was Lord Krishna's sayings and lessons which helped me identify my flaws. Actually, it was the time when this serial Radhakrishna was released on television. Being a devotee of Krishna, how could I miss watching it?

Initially I started seeing it with the intention to learn more about Lord Krishna and Devi Radha but ended up finding myself. I didn't learn about Lord Krishna and instead more about myself. Might sound unrealistic right?

I understand, because maybe you haven't heard his sayings and lessons. Those who have watched it will agree with me. Be it his life story, from his love Devi Radha to the Mahabharata war or the Bhagawat Gita. Every part of his life has a lesson for us. To be precise, Lord Krishna's life story and teachings are the solution to all our problems. I have felt that personally and am not writing it after hearing it from someone. It's my personal experience.

Possessiveness as a feeling is the most poisonous feeling in any human being. When we say that this person is mine and I cannot see him/her close to anyone else, here arises the end of that relationship. Be it any kind of relationship for that sake. This feeling of possessiveness gives birth to jealousy which in turn ruins a relationship . Love as I said earlier is pure and gives freedom to think and choose the right but on the other hand feelings like attachment, possessiveness ties a person to either the wrong path or a relationship. It suffocates both the people in a relationship, it forces them to commit crimes.

We all must have read news like a guy kills his girlfriend because he suspected her to have a relationship with some other guy and the vice versa.

My view here is that if he really loved that girl he should have let her go. If she is in love with someone else and if he wishes for her happiness then his love for her will not allow him to commit crimes. Love is selfless as I told but possessiveness is definitely selfish. If you truly loved anyone in your life then make sure you sacrifice this feeling of possessiveness forever. If I connect the same scenario to Lord Krishna's life then we all know how much he loved Devi Radha. Had he wanted he could have fought with the entire world and married Radha but he knew that his love was eternal. His love, clearly teaches us that a relationship when pure doesn't need a name to define itself. Pure Love doesn't need names like marriage to define itself. It will forever remain in your heart.

I don't know how many of you have watched this movie named "Jalebi". It definitely wasn't a block buster hit on theatres but it touched my heart very deeply. I could connect so well to that film and in the end the hero and heroine part ways . The reason which he gives for parting ways from her touched my heart. He just says one thing that I loved you so much and hence I let you go. Our worlds are different and hence you would have never been happy with me. Hence I chose your happiness above everything.

Genuinely speaking movies like these with such strong baselines are more than a blockbuster. So keep in control your negative feelings like possessiveness, jealousy or attachment and just love your loved ones effortlessly. If someone is yours then why do you have to be possessive for them? But if they are not, they want to leave you and you truly love them then let them go. Pray for their happiness than cursing them, only then it is true love. Never force yourself or your loved one into a relationship, just learn to be happy in their happiness. Life will be beautiful

Radhe Radhe,