Denying Destiny

Beginnings and Endings

The next few months was a blur. Finally choosing a date, hiring a wedding planner, choosing our entourage, scouring wedding venues, fittings, booking photographers and videographers, food and cake tasting, choosing designs and colors for almost everything, sending out save the dates and invites, and all things related to our wedding.

As the date loomed ahead, the bridal shower and stag party was thrown by our friends respectively.

Natatawa ako kay Killian kasi halos kaladkarin na sya nila Karl, Troy, Ryan, Steven, at yung buong college barkada nya palabas ng condo para mag attend ng sarili nyang stag party. Natatakot daw sya sa kung ano mang plano ni Troy at ng kuya nya. He was sure it would be something wild. Well, wild would be an understatement, every one of them flew to Bali, much to Killian's horror.

It was even funnier kasi nung may dumating daw na mga babae dun sa second night nila don (which was the bachelor party proper daw according sa kuya nya), tumayo lang daw si Killian sa may pader and he refused to drink and ma blindfold. He threatened to beat up anyone who came near him. Sobrang OA. Baka daw magalit ako. Troy ended up receiving all the bachelor-to-be-married treatment. Which he completely enjoyed.

Karl couldn't stop laughing over it. Killian never heard the end of it from his kuya na sya daw yung pinaka KJ na bachelor. At least my fiancé enjoyed the first and their last day there kasi nag surf lang daw sila and naginuman and smoked cigars.

Ako, I had two bridal showers. One thrown by our moms na super dignified, since it was a weekend beach SPA getaway, compared to the one thrown by Max, Lian, my sister, and Cez (she flew back for our wedding preps and dahil bridesmaid din sya) which involved foreign male strippers, alcohol, bar hopping, and the most embarrassing games and wild gifts. I had to open one gift in front of other people (complete strangers) at each bar we went to. That penis vibrating ring (given by, surprise, surprise--Max) earned cheers from almost a whole bar. Max had to explain to us how to use it and afterwards, Cez and Jade wanted to buy as well. Wow who would have thought?

Killian kept asking kung anong ginawa saamin nung mga foreign strippers. Which was also funny. Max refused to let him know kung anong nangyari nung gabing yon. Pinagbawalan din nya kong sabihin kay Killian yung full details under threat of our friendship ending if I do it. Unless I make Killian promise na gagawin nya sakin yung mga ginawa nung strippers pati yung pagsayaw in animal print g-strings. Max of course was only teasing Killian.

I was sure my party wasn't as wild as the 3-day party Troy and Karl threw for Killian pero hindi din naman ako naging KJ. The strippers were harmless. And they weren't handsy (in fact, parang sila pa yung natrauma sa mga kaibigan ko, Cez even threw money at them) hindi katulad nung mga babaeng nandun sa stag party ni Killian. Nakakatawa lang na he almost ran away from them. 

But it was also cute.

Before we knew it, we were already doing rehearsals and the rehearsal dinner afterwards the night before our wedding.

Killian and I decided that the vintage theme of our engagement party, despite what happened, was still what we wanted. And I loved everything we chose for our special day. Honestly, I think we were only doing this for our family and friends dahil if it was up to me and Killian, we would have gotten married in front of a judge because we both couldn't wait to spend our lives together. We both suck at waiting after all. But we wanted to give this to our family.