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how to help calm down from a panic attack? ask away!
how to help someone your worried about, go ahead.
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For those that don't know-
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem. This is a common tactic to abusers, dictators, narcissists and cult leaders.
Firstly, They blatantly lie to you. Even if it's obvious, they will tell you with a straight face even if you have proof. They are hoping to make you feel on edge and hesitant, untrusting to them and wondering if they are actually being truthful to you.
Secondly, They deny that they ever did something even if you have proof of this. This way, you will question things that they've said or done and if done repeatedly overtime can cause you to less believe in your own reality and more of theirs.
Thirdly, They use what is dear to you as ammunition. For example, let's say your identity and pets are important to you. They will say things like "If only you never had those pets" "You shouldn't have bought those pets" "If only you weren't so negative" "if only you weren't so up beat or loud." They attack your identity and being in a sense that makes you feel hurt and pushed down.
Fourthly, They wear you down overtime. This is one of the most common and subtle effects. Simply putting in a lie here and there or an offensive comment, it will slowly pull the victim down overtime so they don't realise the effects of the abuser.
Fifthly, Their words don't match their actions. The easiest example is that kid in class that always disrupts the class. They'll say sorry and they won't do it but ten minutes later they'll start disrupting the class again. Pay attention to their actions, do they treat you with respect or have they been actually trying to be a better person then before? Have they stopped/ died down being racially offensive when you've asked them to stop?
Sixth, They'll give in compliments or make you feel better after doing something offensive or upsetting to make you think "Maybe they aren't so bad." But in reality it's mainly a calculated attempt to keep you in and have control. They know that confusion weakens people and is trying to make you confused and at edge so your off stability.
Seventh, they accuse you of being abusive/cheating/lieing when their actually the ones doing so. Their accusing you of this so instead of you looking at their own actions, you are defending yourself instead.
Eighth, They use your friends/ family against you. They'll use that person's power and over you to feel bad about yourself, saying things like "They know your not right." "They think your awful too." This tactic will make the victim not know who to go to for comfort and leading them right to the abuser which is what they want. Isolation is what their aiming for.
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