For OVERTHINKERS

Damn! Social Judgement

Do you find yourself constantly worrying about what others think of you?

Are you worried that people might be judging you and what you are doing?

Always remember this qoute from Lao Tzu , “care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”

It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted for many talents, intelligence, good nature, and  sparkling personality. However, this often leads us worrying too much about what other people think of us, and we make their opinion pivotal to our success, we get into trouble. We start tailoring our lives to fit the expectations of others, and from there it's a vicious cycle.

When we give over our power to others and allow that their impressions to become how we perceived, we lose out on who we really are. The only reality we can see is how we believe others see us.

This kind of excessive worrying can have a negative effect on your life. It can be so debilitating that it interferes with your ability to feel at ease with yourself and around others. Do not let it prevent you from living your life to the fullest potential.

Here are some sure-fire ways to eliminate the worry and free yourself to be yourself.

•Think about why you care. Know that it is not your fault or that there is anything wrong with you, it is the society that we have grown up in that contributes to this developed fear of rejection or judgment.
It's not their life, so it's none of their business. What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. This is your life to live. At the end of the day you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.

•Focus on what matters. When you concentrate on what's important, you think less about your individual role and more about the bigger picture. It takes the glare of people's spotlights off you individually.

•You know what's the best for you. Nobody else is living your life. They might have opinions or ideas, but the only person who knows what is best for you is you. And that means you need to learn about yourself through your own mistakes and failures.

•Practice SELF LOVE & ACCEPTANCE. Try and practice self-care for yourself to show self-love, this can be through meditation, eating healthy, spending time with nature etc. Whatever brings you joy can work, just try and show self-love to yourself every day. This can take a while but once you learn to love and accept yourself, you can start to stop worrying so much as you will accept yourself for who you are and won’t need anyone else’s approval.

•Know that life is too short. Focus on your goals, big or small. Work towards achieving them, even if they seem scary or you are worried what people might say, own your goals. You will always have worries, but not letting them take over and stop you from doing things you love is the main priority. Once you can begin to do this you will see that only you have control over your life, so make it great.

You must make a conscious effort to let go what other people think. It's a skill that needs to be practiced, like meditating. But once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different.

Once you give up catering to other people’s opinion and thoughts, you will find out who you truly are, and that freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time.

People will love you, people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you. Make your choices and live by those decisions, taking full responsibility for what you do and how you do it. Be open to what they think and feel, and consider their opinions, but decide for yourself how to act. Care what the important people in your life think, but only those whose opinions you value. Remember that strangers should not get a vote in how you live your life.