Marriage Under Pressure

Ch. 4 - The Human Heart (part 2)

Marriage Under Pressure

The Human Heart (part 2)

(3) You are willing to do anything, to risk everything, to fight and bear all even it would bring you pain and suffering just to make the guy back. Just to rebuild your relationship. That should be sacrifice (altruism). But it is not. Rather it is suicide. For the right situation it is called sacrifice, but for risking one's life for something that would benefit nothing in the end, it is evidently called suicide. Actually committing adultery is also like committing suicide, for as the Bible says that a person who commits adultery destroys himself (Proverbs 6:32 / 1 Corinthians 6:18). Therefore, you not just only violated the seventh commandments (Exodus 20:14), you also in a way violated the sixth (Exodus 20:13)? But is it really worth it to risk your entire life for something that is only temporary and indeed detestable ("For it is better, if it is God's will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil."--1 Peter 3:17)? If you would risk everything, do anything, and endure all pain for your adulterous affair why can you not do such sacrifice for your own family at the first place, when it was only tested by God? Why can you not sacrifice then for God sake (Luke 9:24), instead for someone who is controlled by sinful desires (Proverbs 21:27)? Isn't the worth it? Isn't it God's will worth sacrificing for? A heart that is capable of sacrificing his own would know the answer, so do you too?

But if ever you had a quarrel with that adulterous guy and he told you that he would disappears for awhile, would you believe that this is God's escape plan for you (1 Corinthians 10:13)? Would you still say to yourself "Kapit lang, kaya natin ito!" or would you grab the opportunity that God has given you to escape such defiling sin? Would you ignore your own effort or would you ignore God's effort? Remember that it is the love of our forgiving God is the reason why He plans an escape from your own sin. Would you not love Him back, and accept this chance?

So what if then that it happens that the guy indeed left you for good. What would you do?

(1) Will you return to your own family? Will you give your family a chance?

(2) Or will you commit another ungodly adultery over and over again (until you produce a dozen children before you satisfy your urge of finding 'I haven't felt this happy in a long time'-affection)? Remember, walang tuksong hindi masarap. For the Devil is good on providing the finest dish to offer for you. Dish that would blind you from the Truth and hardened your heart, until you would despise good advice and God's words ("They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart."--Ephesians 4:18). You fell for it once, never fall for it again, and never stay long enough on the trap. Keep in mind that the satisfaction that the Wicked One provides is way too far and different than the satisfaction that God will provides you.

(3) Or will this the only time that you would confess your sins to the Lord?

Why that you would wait first for such adulterous affair to be completely and totally vanish before you repent to the Lord? Although the Lord is patient and faithful for our redemption, you should still consider that the Judgement Day will come like a thief at the night (1 Thessalonians 5:2) that even Jesus Christ does not know when (Matthew 24:36). Aren't you supposed to be prepared for such unexpected day (Luke 21:36 / Matthew 24:44)?

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