Lesbophobia

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! NOTE: this story is fiction and not based on actual people and situations !

Happy reading x

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Some people... some people are naive, don't you think? Okay, we're all a little naive. Sometimes you a lot about a specific topic, sometimes you don't know anything about something. You might be a straight A student when it comes to maths and science, but maybe you suck at history and psychology.

My point is: we're all different, but we're also all the same. We have our good and bad sides, have pretty sides and ugly sides. We all look different on the outside. We have different DNA combinations, our fingerprints are all different and unique and yet we are all the same. We all have (let's just assume everyone is a healthy, with standard human body functions) a liver, a heart and a brain, and even more organs of course. Maybe all in a different shape, but we're all supposed to have a liver, a heart and a brain (and more organs) to have steady body functions. Please don't start on those people who are born with only half a liver or one kidney, we're talking about basic human anatomy here.

And then there's things that work in your mind and not in your organs. Things that you feel. Apparently those things are called emotions? Yeah, unbelievable, I know. But I wanted to talk about one feeling/emotion in particular: love.

Ah, yes, the topic I was working towards to. I think you saw right through me right?

Love. For centuries it has been so standard and boring. A boy meets a girl, a girl meets a boy, they have a few weeks of awkwardness and then fall in love. They marry, get a dog, then get children and grow old together.

Sometimes they fall out of love, but stay together for their children; that's one thing I can sort of understand. But sometimes their marriage is arranged by their parents. Why? Usually money, family status, the father lost at gambling and his fourteen-year-old daughter was the last thing he had to gamble with. In our "modern" western world arranged marriages don't happen often anymore because it's illegal, not perfectly unreasonable to see why they made that illegal.

Okay but then there's abuse relationships. Let me point out: there have been cases where an arranged marriage was not abusive, it wasn't necessarily romantic, but it wasn't abusive. The people marrying were more friends than lovers.

So, abusive relationships. Boy meets girl, girl meets boy. They fall in love, blah blah blah. But then he starts to get angry with her at the smallest things. She can't have male friends anymore and he starts to check her phone. Sometimes he uses violence, sometimes just words. She hides the bruises on her arms with long sleeved shirts, the bruises on her neck with makeup. And still she stays with him. Why, you might ask. Because she thinks she "can change him". Let me tell you something: people aren't going to change, unless they want to change themselves. Unless maybe they have a mental disorder that makes them go crazy. 

Disgusting.Why would you go back to someone who says they love you, but constantly hurt you? Why in the hell would you even want to go back? 

Have we talked about relationships where a girl abuses a boy? You it happens too. Maybe not as often, but women abuse men as well. Maybe less physically and more mentally, but it's still abusive. Women manipulate. Maybe someone should write a Netflix show about that!

Some issues should be talked about more, you know? I know it is bad when a man abuses a woman, but we shouldn't tell men to stop crying and start growing a pair when they say their wife is mentally abusing them. 

Talking about issues: what about boy meets boy and girl meets girl? People meet people? Unless you identify as someone who can't have romantic feelings for someone, you can fall in love. Everyone falls in love, usually. I wish there were books about people who aren't straight, people who don't live up to your gender standards, people who dare to break the social borders and make their own rules. 

Society is a long way from accepting everyone. I hope to live during the day that no one has to 'come out' and you get a job regardless of your skin colour or religious orientation.

I think you can see where I am coming from. I hope you do. Everyone in this world is important. We're all human after all right. See, this is where this all comes together. No matter what labels we give other people and ourselves, we're all still humans. Our anatomy is fairly the same. 

I was actually going somewhere with that rant about the human body, who would've thought!

But today is not the day I come home and say I'm in love with a girl. No, I still have to come out. Then I have to wait a few months, because everyone needs to get used that they can't think of me as straight anymore, because we're all heterosexual unless we say different. And then I can maybe find someone who I like. Maybe.

But life isn't fair after all, Rosie. Life isn't fair...