Collection of my Thoughts

10. Thoughts about "casual" sexism

So, this one of the main topics that I wanted to talk about. I guess this topic is gonna be short, but I don't know.

For those who don't know what sexism means, here is what I found in wikipedia: "Sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on one's sex or gender, it has been linked to stereotypes and gender roles, and may include the belief that one sex or gender is intrinsically superior to another". So now that you know what it means, let me start with my opinions.

Casual sexism is bullshit. But it had become a normal thing in everyone's life (which is not right). Oppressing a gender because of their sex, is nothing that should be normal.

In India casual sexism has been a part of everyone's life since the beginning of India. But nowadays people in Tamil Nadu are trying to change the stereotype.

Once I have heard my father saying to my brother that "only girls cry, as a boy you should be strong" when we were kids, like are we all not humans, are we not supposed to show emotions????? This is a total bullshit and everyone has the freedom to express what is in their mind. Now that my brother thinks he should not show his emotions, he had grown like a red angry bird (the one that is cheery but suddenly burst fire), my brother has sudden mood swings and shows his anger all at once to his dog. I have not seen him cry for a long time but I know that he cries when he is alone and does not seek for anyone else's care.

My mom always wants me to act like a "Girl", I'll be like who even came up with a girl should and should not do some things like girls should sit properly while boys can sit however they want, boy can roam the streets alone when girls have a strict time that they should be home by, boys can talk however they want but girls should talk politely, boys can wear clothes or not even wear a shirt while girls should learn to cover their body properly. Come on!!! These are total bullshit, all I ever want is equality, I am not saying I would behave raged, all I ever want to do is being restricted from my young age so it sucks a lot.

If possible listen this podcast from spotify or apple podcast "Rotten Mango- India's daughter – New Delhi Bus Rape and Murder Case". Listen to the whole story and in the end also listen to the Rapists statement about the situation. The narrative about the previous paragraph and causal sexism can lead to situations like these.

I was told by my mom that when boys (I am talking about boys, not men) catcall you, you just ignore them. While many parents educate their daughter to stay silent (which is some bullshit), they should have educated their sons to respect girls and women. I know that every woman, at least once in their life, has experienced street harassment and some had the guts to stand up to that, but others just simply does not know what they must do because all they were taught to do was be silent. I have also encountered a lot of street harassments and I just did not know what to do and it's just.... idk what to say.

Boys think that they have every right to treat women the way they want because they think we are only present to complete their needs (huh! Their head is full of bullshit).

In many places in India, it is common to see the male in the house goes to work and only do that work, while the female should take care of the house, children, husband, their parents, food and every other thing. I'm not saying that the female should not do these works, all I am saying is that they could share these works. In my own house I have seen that my grandpa does not do any work while my grandma does most of the works like washing clothes, serving food while eating, separating medicines, cleaning the restroom, etc., while all my grandpa does is dry the clothes, that's it (they have servant to cook food and to vacuum the place), it has just been a stereotype that the women of the family should do most of the work and when asked to my grandma, she says that it is her duty to serve grandpa (literal bullshit).

And also it is totally ok if both the man and woman in relationship have a choice in the dynamics of what they are expected to do in this relationship. But also one problem in this situation is... some are made to believe that they chose that type of relationship when it was actually them being brainwashed since childhood that it is the right way to be, this is what a relationship is supposed to be, etc.,

So yeah! I guess that isall that I have in my mind. To conclude sexism should never be casual orcommon. Everyone has the right to show their emotions. Everyone has equalrights to live their own f**king life. No one is inferior to the another. It isnever our duty to serve another person (we should do what we like rather thanwhat others tell us that it is a duty). Catcalling or street harassment is nota thing that should be taken lightly. Educate both girls and boys from youngage how to act properly (never to say to a girl to remain silent).

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What do you guys think about this topic.

Did I speak apt to the topic, or did I just left the topic and spoke out of context?

What are your thoughts about casual sexism?

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