rant.

the need to feel perfect | zara

hello girlies and guyies :)

today, i would like to address an issue very important to me; 

the need to feel perfect. 

so, here we go. 

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you are a beautiful person. you don't need a pair of scales, or a mirror, or a cover of a magazine to tell you that you aren't, because you are. you may have lanky black hair you don't like, or a big red spot on your nose, or you might have  little more weight than the rest of your friends, but you are still beautiful. 

b e a u t i f u l

yes, maybe you don't have flawless skin like magazine models. maybe you aren't the skinniest person in the world. maybe you don't have a thigh gap. 

so what?

you still have undeniably beautiful qualities about you, and minor flaws should not make you feel insignificant. you are still someone who deserves to feel like a queen, like someone important; you deserve to feel beautiful, which you are. 

yet, society's idea of beauty ranges from perfect to perfect. you need to have perfect perly whites, and a thigh gap, and flawless skin. 

to fit in, you have to be a barbie doll. 

you have to be perfect, according to society. 

why? because everyone wants to look pleasing to the eye. 

everyone wants to be the ideal person to look at. don't lie; have you ever wnated to change something about you? maybe that strand of hair that looks different to the rest of your hair? maybe that spot on your forehead that won't disappear?

of course, we've all thought that before. there is just one thing we'd love to change about ourselves. 

maybe we'd be perfect then, right?

well, i think that's wrong. 

i think that if we change something about us, we become closer to becoming the idea of perfection, which is indisputable. however, if we all change to become perfect, what will make us different? 

if we're all society's definition of perfection, will there be a new definition which we will initiate and undoubtably change to become?

because face it, there will always be something we strive to acheive. and then, once we get that, whatever it is, we strive for something else. 

the cycle never stops, does it?

so if we strive to become the idea of perfection, what will that perfection become? what new idea of perfection will will struggle to acheive?

we all change in our lives to look perfect; we diet to make ourselves thinner, like a model, perhaps for the summer seaons, we wear makeup to hide flaws are embrace others, to pick out our good looking parts and hide the negative. 

everything we do is for a reason; why does it have to be to chase perfection? what is wrong with excellence?

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alternatively, and a form of perfection i undoubtably struggle with, is the idea of perfection through intelligence. intelligence is a key feature to success; however, few lucky people are able to acheive the great without it. 

ever heard of einstein? 

he was a slow learner as a child, and look where he went. 

he is know by millions of people for his incredible work of discovery for science. 

that could be you. 

perhaps you struggle with subjects; but if you keep trying, you could acheive incredible things. 

but you don't try, for the fear of embarrassment when you get that answer wrong. 

why? 

what's wrong with an answer that isn't considered 'correct'?

if you believe that, you believe that; maybe someone else doesn't, so explain it to them. don't force your opinion down their throat, but tell them why you believe that. because who knows, you could be right. 

you shouldn't be afraid to volunteer an answer. you shouldn't be afraid to take a test. you shouldn't be afraid to try because you think you won't do better than someone. 

of course, there will always be someone who is 'better than you'. 

someone who knows that one answer you didn't. 

someone who got that level you can't even imagine you could acheive. 

someone who could do that backdrop in pe. 

just because they can do something you haven't quite got yet, why let that bring you down? 

why should we be put down because we aren't as able to do something asgood as someone else?

if anything, that should spur us on to do far better, to hit that grade, to do that backdrop. 

but we don't. 

because we fall victim to self doubt. we believe that we can't do that; that we will never be able to do that. 

when, in reality, we just need a little bit more time.

we just need to keep trying. 

i am such a hypocrite writing this, and i can honestly say i have been attempting to stop comparing myself to people around me. 

because you cannot be the best at everything all the time. 

you've had your time in the spotlight, and now, someone needs that light to do an award winning routine they've been perfecting. 

but soon, you will be in that spotlight again, doing what you do best. 

and you just need to keep trying, keep practising and keep working hard. 

you can do it, you lovely, lovely person. 

i believe in you, whatever it is.

that physics test you spent all night revising for?

i believe you'll do great. 

your dream of becoming an actress on broadway?

i believe you can get there. 

whatever it is that you want to do, i believe in you one hundred and ten percent. 

okay i'm getting seriously off topic now but please remember perfection isn't even real. 

it's an idea. 

and not all ideas are good ideas. 

so keep on being you, and doing what you do best. 

stop trying to gain perfection because excellence is just as good. 

and ily lots.