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A common mistake many many ppl do a lot is to assume (judge/advice too much without knowing them well) and speak in a non-assertive way while trying to treat someone with care. Some people get rude replies back even when they show care, and sometimes this is one of the reason. It's probably they got triggered (some traumas can be painful and we get really angry or agonised whenever triggered, it's obvious someone will be rude if they feel too hurt and misunderstood)
An advice without understanding the problem is just like bringing a fridge to Antarctica to warm your food lol
Care and concern is done two ways, one is fake one is real:
• By hurting them - When they say something, u disrespect their opinions, claim their feelings invalid or wrong, saying things like " You should be strong. You should do/ shouldn't be like this. Why are you like this? You should be happy, it's your choice to ruin your life by being sad, life is not a bed of rose"
• By healing them - Listening to em with open mind, doing lil things for/with em, or showing em something they might like, sweet convos letting them be themselves and rant to u, without giving em lectures, using assertive ways like "Yes you're right. It's ok to feel this way; we all need a break sometimes, everything will be fine with time, keep it up i know you're very strong dear.
There's a hell and heaven difference between--- "You should do this that"(assumption that they didn't) and "Btw, have you done it? I think you might have, in case u have not, i can suggest something if u need ^^"(asking to know first)
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