The Established Aliens

Chapter 1: THE BIG QUESTIONS TO ASK

Before one embarks on any process of traveling or relocating to anywhere to be regarded as a foreigner, there are a few self-important questions to ask, and these questions will surely guide you in any destination you choose to go

1. What is my motive?

2. Where to travel?

3. How to travel?

4. Whom to meet?

1. What is My Motive

Motive is something (such as a need or desire) that causes a person to act. What is the motive behind your desire to travel in another man's land, termed and treated as a foreigner?

It is essential to find out what traveling means to you as a person. Until you get to the point where you can boldly identify reasons why you travel or think of traveling, you may never be satisfied with the thoughts of relocation in the long term. Refreshingly, our world is increasingly becoming a tech-obsessed world, and the social media space is the perfect platform to showcase the world's beauty to armchair travelers across the globe. I have always seen traveling as something exciting and inspirational and filled with meaning. Traveling makes me educated, challenged, and, most importantly, humbled. If motives for traveling are genuine, we can build travel stories and cherished memories that we can always pay forward to others. The whole idea of this book is to do not just that but also to teach us something about our journey and refocus on what matters.

So I ask, what is your motive for traveling? While I wait to savor your answers, it is only wise I provide you with a guided focus on the different legitimate ways to build or evaluate your motivations for travel. I will use a publication of Thomas E. Muller and Aron O'Cass in their article "Targeting the young at heart..." to explain further using the seven travel motive factors, namely:

-Physical stimulation

-Camaraderie

-Status seeking

-Nostalgia

-Thinking and reflection

-Escapism

-Self-enrichment and discovery

I was talking to a guy two days ago who lamented bitterly about his stay in the Philippines. "Guy; I don't know what is happening in this country too! It's my second year in this country, and nothing works. My brother traveled to Malaysia, and within six months, he made millions and traveled back to his country. Why am I not making much money here, is my own different?" these were his lamentations. But I was moved to pose a question to him. What is your motive for coming to the Philippines? And he took about 10 minutes before answering this question. I came to make big money and go back home; he answered. And I smiled. He threw back the same question to me. I replied; that if I could decide to leave my locality and move to a more developed city to seek a good life in other to earn a living, the motive behind moving to the next town in my country home is the same motive that I came to a foreign land.

"You are honest by nature to see and judge yourself clearly, which is a great thing. Never lose that honesty, Bobby - always be honest with yourself, know your motives for what they are, good or bad, make your own decisions firmly and justly - and you will be a good, strong character of some real use in this cluttered world of ours!" ― Enid Blyton.

Making your motive clear entails being sincere to yourself, this is the foundation of your success in a foreign land. Your success and setback, aggravations and gratifications, happiness and miseries in a foreign land depend on your motive for traveling or relocating to another country. So your justification will make you learn to take life gradually and wait for your time. And on the other hand, it makes you also be at high speed, which might cause a crash on you within a short time.