Living As An INFJ

INFJ+TA: The Initials Explained

INFJ's are rare. There's only 1% of us in the world. And that means only a few thousand people are INFJ's on Earth.

A thousand isn't a small number, for a fact. The world...there are more than a thousand babies born per day...per country. So then imagine how many people there really are in the world.

Any personality type that ends in FJ is rare, but INFJ is the rarest out of all 16. ISFJ, for example, is pretty rare. You find ISFP's everywhere though. ENFJ is pretty uncommon too, but not as rare as ISFJ. ESFJ is pretty much rarer than ISFJ and ENFJ.

INFJ. Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, and Judging. That's what INFJ stands for.

The I, for Introverted, means they find social situations, such as school awkward but after they get comfortable being around specific people, they are a burst of energy and the best friends. I find school REALLY awkward and embarrassing, and hard to express myself when I'm not alone. I prefer being in my own company.

N stands for iNtuitive. That means, relying on gut feeling to make decisions. You are thoughtful, smart, and make careful choices. INFJ's tend to find out all the information and make an informed decision rather than going with the flow and making choices in two seconds. We are also not daring and don't like taking risks. Risks as in PHYSICAL risks, like skydiving. But we're willing to take mental risks.

F stands for feeling. Say I was an INTJ, then I'd be a THINKING type. Thinking is when you use your head, and feeling is using your heart. That makes INFJ's less self-centered-and they have loads of empathy for their values (mine being mental health awareness).

And last but not least, J stands for Judging. If I was INTP, then I'd be a Perceiving type. Perceiving is when you just jump in and go with the flow, like "ALRIGHT IMA DO THIS AND IDC ABOUT WHATEVER HAPPENS LEMME DEAL WITH THAT LATER" type. Judging, on the other hand, is where you think before acting and you are hesitant to do things, which is part of INFJ.

I & E show the person's behavior and social life. N and S show how they make decisions. F and T show their empathy levels, and J and P show how confident they are.

You may have noticed when taking the 16personalities test, you either got INFJ-A or INFJ-T. For each personality type they have two categories. A, which means Assertive, and T which means Turbulent. Here's what they mean:

A's tend to be more confident and relaxed, while T's are more prone to stress and mental health problems. I mean, everyone has stress, but A's deal with it well and T's don't. That's not a bad thing at all.

T's empathize more than A's, too, because T's FEEL others feelings. T's sometimes exaggerate to try and get attention, and they find it hard to stop. T's are more reflective and A's prefer to just LIVE LIFE.

A's sometimes shrug off important problems, while T's focus on even the slightest issues. T's are more observant than A's, and notice dangers and threats long before them.

A's can be too optimistic at times, resulting in toxic positivity, while T's understand that everything isn't always positive and that's how life is.

T's are easily pressured by social norms and prefer to be accepted in society more than A's.

A's take a forgive-and-forget approach to life while T's rather hold grudges since they don't trust easily.

Both A's and T's prefer to plan rather than be surprised by sudden changes of plans.

T's prefer to embrace change while A's can be clingy and prefer things to remain the same as long as possible, which is a negative approach to life.

T's have many regrets. As a T, I regretted not writing a journal in the past. Now I lost many memories so I had to write about what I remembered. A's usually don't let regrets bother them.

T's tend to dwell on past mistakes while A's don't even care.

T's are fueled by their worries and regrets, which in turn forces them to make significant progress to overcome them.

T's are more affected by chaos and drama, while A's are in their little zone all the time. While chaos fueles T's...um, we happen to enjoy chaos mostly, while A's don't let it affect them directly.

T's learn from their mistakes while A's don't. In conclusion, T's are more precise, careful, conscious, and affected. A's are carefree, lighthearted, openminded and more fun, but both have their strengths and weaknesses.