Croissant and Cocktails: The Sex Tales of a Frenchman in London

Lovely heartbreaks

This is a delicate topic. And sometimes it takes a long time to get over an old relationship. We've all been there, and the reasons for breakups are as numerous as the drops in the oceans. We all have different ways to get through this mourning, and there is no recipe. Even if you are the one who is dumping the other. The one breaking up is usually the one losing credit, but I truly believe it's as hard as being dumped. When you care about your other half and see that the relationship is not working, it takes courage to do the right thing. Although this is not the subject here, I'd like to talk about what happens next. In the first few days, or weeks, we can't really see what a breakup has brought us. But months and years later, it's easier to realize it was the best choice and thing to do. So many people are stuck in very toxic relationships, and getting out of it can be even worse for them, as healthy basically became the new toxic. Being happy can be terrifying when a lot of bad stuff happened. I can tell that coming back to health is harsh. It then becomes a souvenir and then your history. NO. Not your history, but a part of it. A special mention for the healthy relationships that can also be difficult mentally, when you realize that a story is not working. When it's all good and something is actually still not working. When you have no one to blame but Life itself. So here we are getting to my point. Relationships have been different for everyone, yet we all learn more about ourselves when a gap of time has occurred. We know, first, that not all relationships are meant to be forever. We know what we can accept and what will never be accepted any more. We learned about patience. We know the kind of quality we like and would like in someone but also those that we do not want to suffer. We also realize what we missed, and it could be a passion or just being alone. It allows some people to reconnect on another level with their friends, but most of all it helps us to relativize. I know this is not the first thing that we see, but in the long run, we all agree and know that the decision was the best. Even if sometimes that decision was not ours. Actually, I fairly don't believe in love forever. WAIT! I'm not saying it does not exist. There are many lucky ones out there that could prove me wrong in no time. Many people can be angry while they're in a relationship, and I feel them, but I think once a relationship is over, the anger, if there was some, should disappear with it. This is too much energy for someone who no longer deserves any part of you. The contrary of love is indifference. Not hate. For those who stay friends, I can't be happier. If everything is clear though. There are no rules on after the breakup and if you can look backwards and think 'That's part of my history, I don't relate to it any more, but I probably would not be who I am today without this part of my life" then you probably are a happy person. Time heals all the wounds, and you are never really alone if you don't want to be!