Have you ever wondered what's inside the mind of a people pleaser?
Do you look at them as tho they wanted their trait? Do you see them as tho they pretend to please to be liked?
Inside the mind of a people pleaser is a big chunk of undeserved fear. They never wanted to become slaves of people just to be accepted. They never wanted to close their eyes and just nod in every situation. Little does the society know, they struggle to say no.
The fear of creating chaos, the fear of noise and battlefields— people pleasers will always navigate a path to never linger on that. They never wanted to be slaves, they never wanted to be a robot, they never wanted to feel exhausted with a bunch of undeserved works pushed by them by people. They never wanted to work for others.
It pains them to vilify themselves if ever they will not meet the expectations of others. It pains them to always have this conscience. Like they were never good enough, they feel as though they were never good enough.
While it is toxic to be blind by the demands, it is also toxic for the side of those people who are taking advantage of that weakness. Who keeps on pushing and lurking through the holes. Even when they ask "is it fine?", they should know that it wasn't from the get go. They should know that you are tired. They should've known that they are being too much already.
The suppression that we feel, being tied on our own hands from experiencing what we want, is a prison cell we never asked for. I hope those person who really knew us would reflect and read us from the eyes. I hope that even if our voice won't reach their ears, they would be able to navigate through our pains— because they are our people, aren't they?
It hurts, it feels like daggers, to be summoned and be held guilty of this trait and weakness. To please people is to lose your values and authenticity. So I join you with the weeping and gnashing of the silent cries we partake. Of the silent torture we do not deserve.
What's more painful is, if you whispered on your mind "why are they being like this to me? they are mean", you feel as though you are a backstabber. Worst scenario, when they get to know what you really feel, they will perceive you as one. You never wanted to label them that, your weakness catapulted you to reach that point.
Dear, you don't deserve the burden. You've got a lot on your plate already, be kind to yourself. Take what you can only contain— do not ever overdo your process.
Take what you can.
