It is our very nature that the first thing we wake up to must be love. Respect, appreciation and love is all we live for. In last two chapters we talked about other people. This chapter will be on why others matter more than just living your mere life. You have to live for others.
In 1st chapter ,I already said that love is about sacrificing. Being mature means to understand whether what or who you are sacrificing for is worth or not.
Is your love soo pure than you can die for that person?
Love is not only about loving family or a person in particular. No, true meaning of love is just incomplete in that sense.
You have to love people around you. Love your friends. Love what they love- instead of criticizing them.
In each time of your life, in every event a memory is created. This event does not necessarily have to be a festival ,it may be as simple as going to tuitions with friends and studying together ;having fun and recalling about it as the 'good old days.' At that time you may have taken it for granted. But now , it's gone , you cannot help it but forget about it as it was all in the past. This is a very small example. Huge events like a girl you like finally says yes (imagination becomes reality) to you or something ,can remain in your mind forever. This love you bear at that time is for happiness. Yes, it's not about the event directly. The event made you happy and no one hates being happy (indirectly it is obviously the event- it's the main reason for the beginning of this cycle). As you love and be happier more events occur sooner and sooner.
Loving something is not the same as liking something. No , liking is temporary. If you say you like something and will never forget about it in your life, you have already indirectly loved it.
Let's talk about the romantic and poetic love. Say , you meet a girl two days ago. You have been talking to her all day. You say you have started having feelings for her.
If you consider these feelings as feelings of love ,it's wrong.
Love is a very high class extreme level word. Right now, you have just started liking her.
You have realized there can be something between you two but yet airnt sure what she thinks of you. You may like her then ,but not later. If you are actually loving someone, you must realize yourself whether it is worth giving her everything you have . Mainly you should know that- are they willing to give their everything just for you?
Loving is not one-sided.
You may love someone for years but not be loved back. You may work hard for them. But what's their reply? What do they think of you? Are you wasting your time? These all questions are the common ones when you LIKE someone . Yes ,when you LIKE someone ,not love them . If you love someone you don't doubt them , you don't think plainly and logically. And therefore you have no questions to be answered . There is nothing to be answered if you love someone. You just think of it and are deeply sank in the thought.
You know you can get rejected but how does that matter? I'll continue loving her as long as she doesn't mind.
Let me tell you my story .
How I was caught in this wormhole of love for years and how I got myself out of it.
I once started liking a girl for almost 4 years . I was immature and inexperienced. As I grew older and learnt more ,I finally asked for her love. A dreadful shyness always fell on me when I even tried to talk to her. Yes,that is always the case. People have love to give but we are too shy to ask for it. Wicked people have love to ask for directly and offer it because they have no need of it and have none of it. I had been rejected 2 times out of 3 as I proposed her. The second time she had said yes. But I still don't quite consider it as we lasted less than a month. But I could not help loving her or more precisely loving to love her. I don't like any quality of her ,if someone asks me what I like particularly about her. I don't have an answer for some reason . The reason is I loved her for sake of love. It was unconditional. I did not have anything to ask for in return.
But I had mentioned earlier that love cannot be one sided.
So I tried to stop thinking about her but it was no use until I realized something else, something greater was required to get me out of this wormhole.
So well , one day I went to her place 4 days after her birthday.
I had planned everything that how I should end my feelings for her. I had found the perfect solution that had worked for me.
I made her hate me. I offended her. I talked about her dad- (just a tip - never ever talk about a girls dad to her , especially if it is an advice or something for him to improve or in my case -quit smoking)- ,I talked normally but acted as if I didnt care. I acted like a jerk so that she can finally hate me . Her hate for me will stop my love for her. After that for a year we haven't talked and even now.
It left a wound in my heart for saying those things about her and her dad. Her dad especially loved me. He has known me for years. There are very few people who love me like he did and I had to end up like this. I didn't mean what I said but it was necessary.
Even today I feel a pain for what I had done. But well, she always said "Everything happens for a reason" and " if we are ment to be together then we will be".
After that I had to believe in fate.
So,well that's how it ended. After that I never dared to like anybody.
I'd rather prefer being friends.
I love everything and everyone now. Sometimes this hatred for everything falls on me as things don't always go according my way as I always compromise for everything. I decided to live for others. I try to feel other's emotions. If I want to be loved by people around me ,I have to learn to love them first.
Always work for the happiness of others ,for that would make you happier. Make your life worth living. It's like a note of a dollar. Even if you crumble it ,or stamp on it ,its value doesn't change and it can still be used .
Never give up on others love, never take anything for granted and learn to love even the wicked, make them realize.
You don't have the right to be happy unless you work for the happiness of others around you.
~I will try to publish next chapter ASAP within next week~
