Humans are not perfect.
A perfect creator may exist for us?
God?
But perfection doesn't exist. Is God perfect? Even our emotions are not perfect.
Humans like any other animal, feel.
We feel. We can name only 27 feelings right now but psychologically we experience 1569 feelings. Happiness, drunk, regret; their opposites, etc.
We always want to be better. Better than anyone else, better than our present self. In the process, we may do something wrong-hurt someone, hurt yourself, drift away from what's right. We make our own fantasies.
As times passes and we realize what we had done, we regret.
Regreting can have stages depending on how bad a thing you did. You may even hurt someone else while you are regretting something else. And later on,regret again. Here, time heals. Time maybe an enemy but things come together with time only.
People can be so 'nice'. These magnanimous people give attention to everyone and forgive easily.If you give them a gift, they will give you something worth way more because of their generosity that you may feel like you are in debt to them. However, they are decent/innocent. People take advantage of them. Use them. For these 'bad' people limits don't exist.
In this generation right now, the teenagers, what they go through- emotional stress, depression, 'want for love' may look fake. But it isn't. We are in a world of social media and democracy, we learn from others and others from us.In this learning stage,they understand things, people and have curiosity and always want something happening. It's their nature which makes them(all of us) unique. They get into drinking, smoking, have a sexual life before eighteen, hookah, weed and whatnot.
Yes, it may sound wrong but somewhere its right too(not physically).
Look, humans don't just get the tag that after eighteen they are 'mature'.
What eighteen years? What years? What is a year? Earth returning to the same exact location of it's orbit for the eighteenth time since YOU were born determines whether YOU are mature or not. Isn't that right?
Life and childhood experiences, upbringing, fights and your brain and heart coordination defines you.
These days, 'too nice' people are hard to find. It's became a brand, a very unique nature and a very rare quality.
People don't lack goodness, they lack the sense of what's right and wrong at a particular time.
Say, if A and B are close friends, if A goes through something and ignores B, B may feel bad. A pushes B away. B feels worse.
Now, instead of understanding what A is going through, B just leaves; forgets A ever existed. When A recovers, he realizes what happened. He regrets. Whereas B on the other hand will be in his bubble thinking how rude people can be and forget all the past and fun they had.
Here, both are at fault.
First of all, A wasn't mature enough to understand how hurting others would not heal his own pain. It's the nature of A to push people maybe? Here it comes down to nature. A is a good guy. That's proved because he regrets what he did. If he didn't while B genuinely tried to help him, then B was right to leave him.
Here, people(A) can be complicated.
What they need is time.
In time they will come around. In time, they shall realize their worth. In time, they shall learn themselves what's right where and when.
Coming to B. He didn't realize that A didn't mean whatever he had said. For him, his PoV, A is just an ass.
"How could he forget me so easily?" "Was he always like this?" "I cannot help him if he doesn't let me in." "Am I being a burden? Seriously?" "We were good friends..." "My worth so less for him?" "Did not expect this, especially from A... Wtf"
What B should have done was hang on. Giving up on A like that just defies what he actually said about being good friends. Yeah, maybe this was the first time B actually saw A ignoring him and he couldn't take it, but giving up like that just breaks down the entire trust system of a friendship. So, both are equally at fault.
What A did was wrong.
But what B did was wrong too.
They should have sat down and talked about this. If A wouldn't talk, B should respect and see A's PoV and understand that giving time is best right now. It maybe hard to give time but it's right. A would come around and tell B whatever he was going through.
This situation could have even turned out to be a fight. But fights bring people closer. Not the fighting part, but what people do and say to get back together. Thats what matters. At this time, they express how they really feel about that person and how much they mean to them. This is what brings them closer. That's why loved ones fight a lot. The more fights you get over, the stronger becomes your bond.
Fights are important in a relationship.
Be 'nice'. If you do something major, people will understand why you did it and why it was the only way...maybe.
But don't attack the small things. Things which are the roots of a relationship. When smalls things fall, changes occur and these are definitely not good ones. You will hate them. Everything would be going south. That's the time you realize your worth- hold on? Let go?
Never attack the pillars of friendship because they are not always strong enough, or they were never strong enough because it's you bringing them down.
Genuinely nice people go through a lot because of this. When it's a person's nature, he tries to change it. In the process he goes through more of this bullshit because he cannot be himself. He hates himself for being 'nice'.
"Why is it so hard for people to be nice to others?" "Jerks"
Chuck them.
Learn to let go.
It's a really really really really really really important lesson of life. And it's hardest for 'nice' people.
'Goodness at its finest' is #tested.
If you are the hero of your story, dont change the story by changing yourself.
"I was so nice to him yaaaa" "how could I ever be a burden on someone especially on him"
Well, you don't deserve him. Let go.
I have been inactive for months but I don't think anyone gives a flying fuck cause I myself don't. Thanks for reading though.
