After 5 cups of coffee and two long walks around the block, I re-read my final draft for the last time before sending it to Amanda.
I love you until I find someone better
Mia Harriet Dawson
We are a generation of Tinder, Grindr, Bumble and keeping our options as open as our legs. We like Instagram-able brunches, Snapchat centered wine and dine locations, turn up so we can check in our location and date so we too can be #couplegoals.
The boom in technology where love is born on dating apps and raised on social media, intimacy is more convenient and accessible than it has ever been in the history of mankind. Then why are we are slowly becoming the forever alone memes we read in high school?
How did we become this generation of loneliness, depression, anxiety, divorces, single parents and hashtag forever alone?
All of us want everlasting love and undying commitment but we settle for commitment-phobes, fuck boys, friends with benefits, open relationships and threesomes.
We don't like to label our relationships anymore and exclusivity isn't a given when you start seeing someone.
Monogamy has become so last decade. We don't sit down to have difficult conversations to fix our problems, we just stop replying when it gets uncomfortable because #ghosting is trending now.
The concept of compromise makes us uncomfortable because how can we settle down and only be in love with one person for the rest of our life? What if someone better comes along? We are a generation that is perpetually looking for the next better paying job, bigger apartment and the one.
I am no exception and I am no expert but in this generation of happy now and forever is a lie, every person I have ever met wants their first marriage to be their last marriage. Every soul I have encountered wants to fall in love and spend their life in the comfort of somebody's arms. Everyone wants to be loved to the point of madness.
But we are all too busy Netflix and chilling.
It's the same reason we all want to lose 20 pounds but none of us want to eat healthy and workout.
We want the good parts of the relationship, but the mundane, boring tasks of living our everyday life with someone and sharing uneventful moments with them is unexciting.
We want the rush of the new girl or guy every day but we also want the familiarity of someone who knows us and loves us irrespective of our flaws.
We want to fall in love and have the happily ever after we were promised as children but how do we know we have found the one until we've looked everywhere?
Technology has made us all obsessed with the concept of FOMO because on social media everyone around us is having a better time than us.
Maybe we as a generation just updated our iOS without realizing the glitches that come with this new way of life.
Maybe it's time we deleted Tinder and got back to face-to-face interactions. Maybe it's time we stopped Snap chatting and instead started living a life that pictures couldn't capture. Maybe it's time we see each other face to face instead of via Facebook.
Maybe we've gotten so lost in this cycle of updating statuses and keeping up appearances that we've forgotten what the true meaning of intimacy really is.
Maybe we don't need all these options and multiple people in and out of our lives.
Maybe we're all so addicted to the idea of looking for love that none of us know what to do when we find it.
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